Tuesday, 17 September 2019

F4Thought Changes

#F4Thought Changes
Food 4 Thought will return at 10am (UK time) on Tuesday the 24th September.
The meme will now be open each week from Tuesday 10am until Sunday 10pm.(UK Time).

Friday, 13 September 2019

F4TFriday #115 - Round Up

#F4TFriday #115 - Round Up
#F4TFriday #115 - Round Up

Normally we just choose one spotlight entry if there are less than 25 links to Food for Thought. This week we received 20 amazing posts and because we don't have the next prompt until the 24th – details coming shortly – I realised I would need to do a separate post anyway, so you know what? I have three in the spotlight! But I've not told Floss because the first one is hers.

Friday, 6 September 2019

F4TFriday #115 - Music On! World Off!

Music On! World Off! #F4TFriday
#F4TFriday #115 Music On! World Off!
There was a wonderful variety of posts for last week’s topic of Nightmares which was kindly suggested by Sweetgirl. Each week we are keen to let everyone know that the questions we ask related to the prompt are just a guide, and even the topic itself is open to interpretation and I think we saw the benefit of that approach this week. 

The agreement May and I have is less than 25 posts results in us highlighting one spotlight post, 25 and over results in a top three and a round-up post. This week it falls to me to choose the spotlight post from all the fabulous entries. 

#114 Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post
As is often, well actually always, the case when I have to highlight writing in some way I’m always drawn to the one that moved me most. Which means this week’s spotlight post is When nightmares intrude by Kisungura. 

‘The types of visual nightmares I experience today feel the same as then, and can trigger an overwhelming fight, flight, freeze or fawn response in me, depending on the severity of the intrusive thought.’ Read More …

Prompt #115 - Music On! World Off!

Friday, 30 August 2019

F4TFriday #114 - Nightmares

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#F4TFriday #114 ~ Nightmares
Floss's prompt for #113 certainly inspired lots of you into posting. We have both so enjoyed reading all your words about why you blog. 

Many bloggers have done a great job of writing a post that covers more than one of the weekly memes – in fact I did that myself. It is something to consider each week if you link to memes on a regular basis, particularly now the F4tFriday questions are merely guidance, write whatever you want to about the prompt topic. We are always happy for you to link up an older post and update it with the F4t badge, or write a fiction piece.

#113 Spotlight Post

This week there is a spotlight roundup post which focuses on three of last week entries - You can check out the post here. The roundup included - Malflic, Asrai and Elliott Henry.

Prompt #114 Nightmares (&/or Dreams)

F4TFriday #113 - Round Up

F4TFriday #113 - Round Up
#F4TFriday #113 - Round Up
With thirty entries this week for Floss's excellent choice of Food for Thought topic - the Why of Blogging, the task falls for me to choose three bloggers to put in the spotlight.

The fast turn around we have between prompt posts means I have to do this is super-fast time. That is one of the reasons we will be changing the start and end times for this meme in a few weeks. Information coming soon.

However I have been reading tweeting and making notes as the week has progressed so the difficult bit is narrowing it from my shortlist of six to a roundup of three and publish.

Friday, 23 August 2019

F4TFriday #113 - The Why of Blogging

The Why of Blogging #F4TFriday #113
#F4TFriday #113 The Why of Blogging

#113 - The Why of Blogging

Thank you to everyone who was inspired to share their thoughts on the prompt chosen by Swirly - ‘Rituals.' It’s interesting to see the various aspects of life where we all embrace rituals, or in some cases how folks don't place importance on rituals. We got beautifully varied perspectives and we loved it. The spotlight post this week has been chosen by the talented Cousin Pons. Let me hand you over to him...

#112 - Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post by Cousin Pons

Thank you to all nineteen writers for your posts on the subject of Rituals. I have been taken on an emotional journey through posts containing pain, suffering, joy, elation, sadness and moments filled with humour. For some rituals and routines are the bedrock of their lives and for others they are the habits, which rumble along, almost unnoticed. It was difficult to choose. So many excellent posts. I loved Mr More's and some of the others were very moving and my eyes are still full of tears of laughter after reading Nero's entry.

The post I would like to put in the Spotlight is Rituals and Memories by Swirling Fire. I have always been interested in memory and the tricks it can play on us. Swirling Fire describes, in her very matter of fact way, how her well structured and ordered day, was suddenly thrown into a sickening turmoil by the arrival of a text just before she went to work. It was an innocuous text but the timing of it precisely mirrored a dreadful one she had received years earlier.

“It took me to the exact second of receiving a mindWizard text in the past, it was early in the day, before work, and timed the day before a long pre-arranged weekend together. Coldly Informing me that he had a new woman. We would not be communicating in future. I had also spent money on new lingerie, outfits, turned down work bookings, looking forward to spending time with him. It never once crossed my mind the sentiment was not reciprocated. The tidal wave of manipulation and hurt was a full body blow that I couldn’t calm. Why my mind creates these painful synapses needs to be explored and worked upon. It’s an unkind unhelpful reflex.” Read More...

Prompt #113 - The Why of Blogging

Friday, 16 August 2019

F4TFriday #112 - Rituals

#F4TFriday #112 ~ Rituals rites
#F4TFriday #112 ~ Rituals

We are very happy with our growing #f4tFriday community. Thank you to all who got involved again or for the first time last week.

#111 Spotlight Post

The Spotlight post turned into a spotlight top3 as we had so many lovely entries from you guys. Thank you so much for supporting the meme.

The Round Up included Posy Churchgate, Zebra Rose and Kurvy Kinkster. Please take a look at the Round Up post... 

Prompt #112 Rituals

F4TFriday #111 - Round Up

F4TFriday #111 - Round Up
#F4TFriday #111 - Round Up

The prompt Words to Live By from Floss has really got so many of you thinking. We'd particularly like to welcome all those bloggers who have linked up for the first time. Great to have you as part of our growing community.

The task of choosing the spotlight post is mine this week. Floss and I agreed sometime ago that if the F4tFriday entries reached 25 we would have a top three roundup. So I am very happy to say here it is!

Friday, 9 August 2019

F4TFriday #111 - Words To Live By

Words To Live By #F4TFriday #111
#F4TFriday #111 Words To Live By

#111 - Words To Live By

For a while, I was worried that even talking about taboos was taboo, but so many of you came through for us and your posts were amazing. This has been the highest engagement ever for us since May and I took over the F4TFriday helm, so a huge thank you to contributors old and new for supporting us as we endeavour to make Kilted Wookie proud of the project he started. 

#110 Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post
There were so many awesome posts on sexual taboos and why society encourages taboos, but none of them made me shout ‘YES! That should be a taboo’ quite like the post ‘What is Taboo?’ from Steeled Snake Charmer.

‘Except…I guess things were. Taboo in my life was saying something nasty about someone because of gender or race or sexual orientation or income or…whatever. Anything that was judgmental was stopped and discussed. Respect for people was paramount. My parents dropped friends and distanced themselves from family who could not be respectful of others.’ Read More

Prompt #111 - Words To Live By

Friday, 2 August 2019

F4TFriday #110 - Taboo

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#F4TFriday #110 ~ Taboo

There was quite a lot of thinking out of the box for last weeks prompt of Face Value. Many thanks to all who joined in. Floss and I really want to make this meme all about you guys, and what you want to write about. Please get in touch with prompt ideas.

#109 Spotlight Post

A few weeks ago PJAWoode chose our very popular prompt of Selfies. Now he is back to pick the spotlight post for us.

I was really happy to get involved with F4tFriday again. The prompt of Face Value from Posy struck
f4tfriday spotlight #109 and taboo #110
Spotlight #109
a chord with many. Indeed her own post was very touching – particularly the comment that blogging makes her proud.

For some, masks are essential and part of their very essence. For others they are more problematic. The open exchange of thoughts, feelings and insights has been very humbling.

My standout spotlight post is from Submissy. Her post is wonderfully profound and really resonated with me. She says...

I am not sure you can ever really feel that you know the true make up of another person, even though you can know and appreciate their value to you. We all have hidden parts and various masks that we adorn in order to do what we need or want to do. Read More...

I would also like to give an honourable mention to Steeled Snake Charmer.

Yes, maybe I could be “all” of me all of the time. But, I really feel authentic in myself even when covering up parts of my life. I don’t lie, but I don’t share. These are private parts of me that I choose to share with the right people.

Prompt #110 Taboo

Friday, 26 July 2019

F4TFriday #109 - Judging Things at Face Value

Judging Things at Face Value #F4TFriday #109
#F4TFriday #109 Judging Things at Face Value

#109 - Judging Things at Face Value 

The selfie definitely got us all talking last week and not only did we get some fabulous words about them but also some actual images too, which were all delightful. Thank you so much for linking up to Food For Thought. 

#108 Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post
I think many of us will have related to the post shared by Deviant Succubus. Her thoughts on control in relation to the images she shares and faking her confidence levels definitely had me nodding along to many of her points …

And people, there goes a lot of work into faking confidence! You need to wear that mask and you need to wear it well! It is about accentuating the parts of yourself that you like, and hiding those you find terrible. It is about seeming calm and in control, and very much about the way you hold your head up high when walking down the street. But the best way to fake confidence? Posting selfies of yourself! Read More …

Prompt #109 - Judging things at Face Value

Thursday, 25 July 2019

Selfies - Guest Post

Selfies guest post Muse dreamer
#F4tFriday Selfies Guest Post from Muse Dreamer

Introduction by May More.

I have been following Muse Dreamer for some time now and really enjoy the photos, mainly selfies that she posts on Twitter. When this prompt was suggested I immediately thought of her and a few others who constantly put out stunning shots on Twitter. I suggested that Muse get involved and here she is with some fabulous selfie shots for us to enjoy. Please welcome her to Food for Thought...

Selfies Guest Post from Muse Dreamer

Friday, 19 July 2019

F4TFriday #108 - Selfies.

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#F4TFriday #108 Selfies ~ Image copyright, Posy Churchgate

We had some very entertaining posts on the subject of Movies last week. Thank you all for linking up with Food for Thought.

#107 Spotlight Post
The post by El Byrne left it's mark on me in more ways than one. She is so right about her
Spotlight Post
assessment of the movie A Star is Born but then she goes into personal details about her own life and situations which look as if they were running parallel to the film script.

They really appreciate you at your job. Well done. I wish my job appreciated me. You know they always say they are going to promote me but they don’t. I can’t do anything right. Read More...

Prompt #108 ~ Selfies

Friday, 12 July 2019

#F4TFriday #107 - Mmmm ... Movies

Mmmm ... Movies #F4TFriday #107
#F4TFriday #107 Mmmm ... Movies

Thank you for another fabulous week, your thoughts on ‘crazy’ were utterly fabulous. There was a wide range of choices for the spotlight post but I finally managed to make a decision. 

#106 Spotlight Post

When I read Violet Grey’s post about hypocrisy I very nearly whooped at my screen whilst hollering ‘you tell ‘em, Violet’. The behaviours Violet discusses drive me to the edge of distraction and because she voiced something I feel so strongly about I couldn’t not choose it for my spotlight post. 

‘One thing that absolutely makes my blood boil is ignorance. Now, I don’t mean if you innocently just don’t know something and wish to learn, I mean the ignorance where people are exclusionary, prejudiced and just outright awful to others for ridiculous reasons.’

Prompt #107 ~ Mmm … Movies

Friday, 5 July 2019

F4TFriday #106 - Crazy

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#F4TFriday #106 is - Crazy!
Thank you to all of you who linked up to the topic of Communication last week. It is such an important issue to tackle within any relationship.

#105 Spotlight Post

This week the spotlight post is from Marie. Her entry really resonated with me. Particularly this quote

“You might think it is, but for me conscious and clear communication is definitely not a given. In my head I can form perfect sentences, have the perfect conversation, and I can say the things I really want to say, but the moment I enter a conversation, I can’t think of anything I wanted to say, and my words seem to come out all garbled and twisted. Sometimes with discussions it takes me days to think of what I actually should have said, as I can feel quite blown over by people who always seem to have their words ready. I don’t.”  Read More...

Prompt #106 ~ Crazy

Friday, 28 June 2019

F4TFriday #105 - Conscious Communication

Conscious Communication #F4TFriday #105
#F4TFriday #105 Conscious Communication
It was a rollercoaster of emotions reading last week's posts for our 'Near Misses' topic.
Thank you to May for getting the cogs whirring on that one and to everyone who shared their experiences whether they made us laugh or cry, and trust me they did both, we were very grateful for them.

#104 Spotlight Post

This was a tough choice, A Near Miss from Jupiter Grant is the one that got me right in the feels though. Despite the very different experiences and the ways in which we expressed our struggles, so much of her post resonated with me and I suspect that will also hold true for others. I know how hard posts like this are to write and we are truly blessed when our fellow bloggers open up to us. 

'The insidious thing about depressive illness is that it snuck up on me and it was only upon reflection, after the worst had passed and with the help of therapy, that I saw how the illness had been building over a period of years, how there were warning signs and triggers. Unfortunately, at the time I had no idea how damaging their cumulative effect could be.'

Prompt #105 ~ Conscious Communication

Monday, 24 June 2019

Near Miss ~ Guest Post

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#f4tFriday Near Miss ~ Guest Post PJA Woode

A few of you might know that the reason I indulge in all this glorious smut stuff is that my sex life at home is as vanilla as vanilla gets. Sex is for Sunday mornings. Same position. Same movements. My OH comes first. I come second. She receives. I give.

And that is it. Anything else is just not on the menu . Masturbation is a sin. Reading erotic tales or watching porn is so far beyond a 'no, no' it is untrue. And, before you ask, yes I have suggested we might push our very limited boundaries, on numerous occasions and in numerous ways, but the door is very firmly shut.

Friday, 21 June 2019

F4TFriday #104 - A Near Miss

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#F4TFriday #104 is - A Near Miss

What a great question from Floss for last weeks prompt. Many thanks to all who ventured in ;-)
This week it is my turn(May) to host and also chose a spotlight post from last weeks entries... 

#103 Spotlight Post

All the posts from #103 were just marvelous – I mean it. Floss and I are so chuffed with your support of the meme.

My spotlight post this week is this one from Melody. You will totally understand why I chose this entry when you read the quote:

a near miss
Ask me at about the youngest age I can remember and I’d have described something like this picture. I wanted to grow up to be the maiden tied to the tracks.
I’m not sure I cared about some dumb handsome lumberjack coming to rescue me. I cared about being bound and helpless – oh, and female. ReadMore...

But I also want to give an honourable mention to Purple's Gem for their entry.

Prompt #104 ~ A Near Miss

Thursday, 20 June 2019

When I Grow Up ~ Guest Post

when i grow up guest post
#F4TFriday When I grow up - Guest Post PJA Woode

The first 'naughty' magazine I saw when I was a fairly young had a profound effect on me. It was very well thumbed as it had done the rounds. Thankfully I don't recall any pages being stuck together. Yes, I really shouldn't have looked as I was not 18 at the time. And, yes, it almost certainly portrayed the women in a very false, very sexist, very male-centric way.

Friday, 14 June 2019

F4TFriday #103 - When I Grow Up

When I Grow Up #F4TFriday #103
#F4TFriday #103 is When I Grow Up
Thank you for another great week on Food For Thought Friday and big thanks to May who provided us with last weeks topic, this week that particular challenge falls to me before I discuss that though it's spotlight time for my favourite post from last week. 

#102 Spotlight Post

This week @_Masterseye takes the spotlight position. I LOVED her post Mistakes. Not only do I think it will resonate with many of us, but I also hope her 'I will' section of the post reminds us all to approach our own lives in just the same way. However, it is her 'I should' section that I take my quote from, because how could I not ...

"I should have remembered that I am a FUCKING QUEEN
I should have made sure my husband knew it
I should have owned it, put on the mantle and worn the crown'
Prompt #103 - When I Grow Up

Friday, 7 June 2019

F4TFriday #102 - Mistakes

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#F4TFriday #102 Mistakes
Floss and I would like to say a massive thank you to everyone who joined in this week. We really appreciate your support for our first Food for Thought Friday. Your posts were packed with lots of scary fears and loathsome hates.

#101 Spotlight Post  

I want to highlight this entry by Jaime. I am very much used to reading his hot fiction. Sometimes he writes a post which is not only informative but extremely honest and from the heart.   


"So Stupidity scares me. Humans need to become more intelligent and prize intelligence more. But that is still not what scares me most. What scares me most is being without a lover, or living unloved."


Prompt #102 ~ Mistakes

The topic for discussion this week is MISTAKES.

Friday, 31 May 2019

F4TFriday #101 - Room 101

Room 101 F4TFriday #101
#F4TFriday #101 is Room 101
Today is the 101st prompt for Food For Thought Friday. And we have to wave a fond, yet sad,
farewell to its creator Kilted Wookie who at present needs to devote his time elsewhere. Thankfully two fair maidens have agreed to look after the meme for him.

Friday, 24 May 2019

F4TFriday #100 - Landmarks

This is the 100th Food For Thought Friday prompt. If you'd asked me when I started this meme if I ever thought I'd manage to keep it going this long, I would almost certainly have said "no". That it has kept going so long is, in the main, down to the support of those of you (59 of you so far) who have provided contributions week after week to the questions that I and several others have set. So, I would like to offer sincere and very heartfelt thanks to those that have supported and contributed.

This is, however, to be the last prompt that I will be setting. Sadly I no longer have time to devote to this project. However, all is not lost. The lovely May (@May_Matters) of Sex Matters, and Floss (@_floss_84) of Floss Does Life have kindly agreed to step in and take up the reins to keep this meme alive.

Friday, 17 May 2019

F4TFriday #99 - Picture This

Most, if not all of us, have taken "sexy"/"naughty" photos of ourselves at one point or another. It may have been for your own personal collection, to send to a partner, or perhaps you posted it to a meme such as Sinful Sunday, February Photo Fest or Scavenger Hunt.

Some of us take them for the challenge (and risks) of taking such photos, some out of a sense of exhibitionism, some for the enjoyment of others and some people do it to help with their own self image/self esteem. Most of us, quite possibly do it for a combination of these reasons (or more) in varying proportions.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Friday, 10 May 2019

F4TFriday #98 - Spread A Little Love

The sex blogging community is, above all, a community. We discuss topics that people find difficult to be open about, we promote body/sex/self positivity, we share our experiences, our hopes and fears, and we do it in the knowledge that our fellow bloggers do not judge us.

Having said that, scratch the surface of any blogger hard enough and, underneath you will find a regular human being, who has their own particular tastes and likes.  Part of what makes this community so great is its diversity; the range and breadth of content from contributors is such that there is something out there for everyone to enjoy.

So, in the interests of sharing some love and support for the community of which we are part, we would like you to do something a little different:

Friday, 3 May 2019

F4TFriday #97 - Puting Others First

Humans tend to be programmed to focus on their own needs. This isn't necessarily a selfish thing, we need to look after ourselves simply to survive, and we have done a number of prompts in the past about self-care and looking after ourselves.

It is, however, part of our make-up to look after and attend to the needs of those that we care for and who care for us, whether this be in some form of D/s dynamic, or simply as a result of sharing our lives with other people, be they friends, family or partners.

This week's questions are, as always, open to interpretation and may (or may not) be sex related, but what we want to know is:

Friday, 26 April 2019

F4TFriday #96 - Who Would You Do?

Many of us have our "Fantasy Fuck List" - those people, be they celebrities, colleagues, friends, or possibly just the barista who serves you your coffee in the morning, that for one reason or another, we fantasise about doing naughty things with or to.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you have such a list? Who is on it?

Have you ever had sex with someone famous, be it a local celebrity or a major star? How did it come to happen?

Friday, 19 April 2019

F4TFriday #95 - Getting Things Going

The type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.

Whether it's the former or latter of the above scenarios, or something that lies somewhere in between, things have to start somewhere. So, this week, what we want to know is:

Friday, 12 April 2019

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Friday, 5 April 2019

F4TFriday #93 - The Good, The Bad And The Indifferent

We all like to think that we're good at doing the things we do. Sex is no different; no one wants to think that they are bad at it. If we are being honest with ourselves, however, we will almost certainly admit that we are better at some things than we are at others.

Often, the things we are "best" at, are those things we enjoy doing most, and we are less good as those activities that we are less keen on.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
What would you consider are your particular sexual strengths?

Is there anything that you feel you could, or want to do better?

Have you ever been told you are particularly good at something?

Are there any activities that you are completely indifferent about, but do them anyway?
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Friday, 29 March 2019

F4TFriday #92 - Where Do You Go To?

As Peter Sarstedt famously sang:
"Where do you go to my lovely, when you're alone in your bed?

Tell me the thoughts that surround you,I want to look inside your head"
Alone time, or making time for yourself is an important, if often overlooked part of looking after ourselves. Sometimes we need space for ourselves, simply to be ourselves.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How often do you make time for yourself?

What do you do to gain the most benefit from your "you time"?

How do you balance the time you devote to yourself and to others? Which do you prioritise? Why?
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Friday, 22 March 2019

F4TFriday #91 - At A Loss

Usually, loss is seen as a negative. This is understandable as it generally means that we no longer have something of value, be it a possession, a relationship or sometimes even just a particular thought or emotion.

Sometimes, however, loss, or getting lost, can be a good thing. We stumble upon somewhere/something/someone new, it results in us making discoveries, it alters our view on things, and can take our lives in new and (possibly) exciting directions.

Whether the outcome is good, or bad, loss inevitable means change, so, this week, what we want to know is:
What was your most significant loss?

How did you deal with it?

How has that (or any other) loss affected your life?
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Friday, 15 March 2019

F4TFriday #90 - Gone Awry

Sex, when everything "works" is fantastic. Sadly however, even when the mind is willing, our bodies can let us down. Stress, tiredness, illness, having the cat jump on the bed as you are approaching climax (or is that one just me?) can all sometimes cause things to go awry and for the best and naughtiest of intentions to fall short of where we wanted them to take us.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Have you had an experience where either you, or your partner just weren't able to "follow through" with the mood? Is it something that happens regularly

How did you feel at the time?

How do you manage these situations? Are you ever able to get back "in the swing"? If so how?

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Friday, 8 March 2019

F4TFriday #89 - The Food Of Love

Certain foods, drink, candle light, a certain song, a particular scent, Wednesdays; there are all kinds of things that people consider aphrodisiacs.

Different people are turned on by different things, so, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you have a go to aphrodisiac?

What things help put you in a sexy mood?

Do you have a favourite "love potion/cocktail" that you know your partner cannot resist?

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BIG "Thank you!" this week to Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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Friday, 1 March 2019

F4TFriday #88 - In Your Dreams

Sex dreams: many of us have had them at one time or another. Sometimes they involve a partner, sometimes a celebrity crush, sometimes a complete stranger and sometimes a "real-life" crush. Usually, all very, well... perhaps innocent isn't quite the word, but harmless fun. Sometimes, the object of our semi-somnolent desire can be extremely inappropriate, a colleague, an authority figure, a best friend or someone that the idea of just gives you shivers (and not the good kind).

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How regularly, if at all, does sex occur in your dreams?

Is there a recurring partner in these dreams?

Who is the most inappropriate person to have featured in a sex dream?

If you have had a sex dream about a friend, did you tell them? How did they react?

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Friday, 22 February 2019

F4TFriday #87 - The Dating Game

Much of the internet these days, it seems, is devoted to helping people either get together, get it on or, on occasion, both. Whether it be "traditional" dating sites such a "match" or "eHarmony" or more sex orientated sites like "fabswingers" or "adult friendfinder", or apps like Tinder or Grindr, there are countless ways of connecting with people for the purposes of sex and/or relationships.

Of course, it wasn't always like this. Those of us of a certain age remember (fondly or otherwise) trying to chat people up in bars or clubs, or being introduced/set up by mutual friends and acquaintances. As someone who has used both the new-fangled and old fashioned approaches, I'm not entirely sure that either way is better, or less apprehensive making than the other, but I digress.

So, what we want to know this week is:
Are you currently dating? If so, what is you preferred method of arranging a date?

If you are in a relationship, how did you meet your current partner and how long did it take before you realised you were "a couple"?

Share an amusing dating anecdote, or recount an experience of a date that went either badly wrong, or incredibly well. Are you still in touch with that person?

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Friday, 15 February 2019

F4TFriday #86 - Touchy-Feely

Sex is, by its very nature, a highly sensual activity. Sight, sound, scent, and taste all add to and heighten the experience. Primarily though, sex is tactile. Whether you are on your own, or with a partner, touching, and being touched play a large part in igniting arousing and satisfying our sexual needs and desires.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How do you like to be touched?

How do you like to touch yourself?

Which parts/areas of you body do you most enjoy touching or having touched?

Which part of a partner's body do you most enjoy touching? Why is that?

Are there any parts of your body that you can't stand having touched?

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Friday, 8 February 2019

F4TFriday #85 - Getting Off

Orgasms, it is said, come in one person sizes. We all, if we're lucky enough to have them, experience them in our own way. The only orgasms we ever truly experience are our own as they are almost entirely internal. What we feel is unique to us, our mood, the stimulation we're experiencing and the circumstances under which they are being experienced.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.

What is your favourite way to reach/be brought to a climax?

What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm? How long does it normally take you?

How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm? Typically, how often do you manage to get off?

Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally comes first?

Have you ever faked an orgasm? What were the reasons/circumstances that led you to fake it?

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Friday, 1 February 2019

F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #101 - Room 101

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