Tuesday, 12 November 2019

F4Thought #123 - The Things We Do For Love

The Things We Do For Love #F4Thought
#F4Thought #123 The Things We Do For Love
There were so many good perspectives on Faking Orgasms from last week’s prompt and as the task for choosing the spotlight post fell to the lovely blogger who suggested the topic, Julie of Master’s Pleasing Bitch.

Spotlight Post #122 by @MPBJulie

Julie chose Faking an orgasm - not quite a good idea by Isabelle Lauren saying … 

Spotlight Post #122
The following quote really struck a note; ‘I think that’s what surprised me the most about having enjoyable sex again. I thought my body would remember how to orgasm – kinda like how you never forget how to ride a bike – but nothing was further from the truth.’ Read More

I chose Lauren's post because the need to write about this topic once she saw it shone through. Her post came from the heart as she unpacks the reasons for faking orgasms and the pain (physical and emotional) that followed.

But then this: ‘As to whether an orgasm is important to me… If I’m honest: no, not really. Of course I’d love to orgasm during sex, but it’s not necessary.’ This is the experience of so many of us once we are in a happy, stable and loving relationship.

Prompt #123 - The Things We Do For Love

I didn’t exactly think this post up by myself. It was actually inspired by Anything he wants: love, piss and foolishness by the fantabulous Girl on the Net. I remember reading it and thinking, ‘you know what, I wonder what the lovely F4Thought participants have done for love?’ Maybe like Meat Loaf, you’d do anything for love, but you won’t do that. Either way, I’m eager to hear what this prompt inspires you to write about. 

Friday, 8 November 2019

Faking Orgasms ~ Guest Post

faking orgasms
#f4thought Faking Orgasms ~ Guest Post PJA Woode

When you hear the phrase ‘faking it’ you probably think of women putting on a performance to assuage the sexual ego of a male partner. There could be a multitude of reasons for her action and doubtless many are listed in the other posts here.

Monday, 4 November 2019

F4Thought #122 - Faking Orgasms

F4Thought #122 faking orgasms
#F4Thought #122 ~ Faking Orgasms - Have you ever faked your climax?
Last weeks prompt of secrets certainly got you writing about all types of secrets, sexual and otherwise. Thank you to everyone who joined in.

J.Lynn has been a supporter of Food for Thought since Floss and I took over back in week #101. So I was very happy when she agreed to choose the spotlight post for week #121.

Spotlight Post #121 by J.Lynn

I’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading about everyone’s secrets or how they have handled keeping a secret.
faking orgasms
#121 Spotlight Post
Being a bit of a secret hoarder myself has its perks and it thrills me knowing about a little piece of a person that no one else may know. I’m not the vindictive type so even if I have a falling-out with a person their secret is still safe with me.

This brings me to why I chose Melody from Melody Insights this week; she has shared her secret with us throughout her blog, but this post really hit a soft spot. As children we are like sponges- we learn, observe, and internalize how we are brought up. This is key in the way we interact with other people and whether or not we let them see our true selves.

“Those of us brought up in a different era would never let on we’d been in trouble at school.  It would only earn extra punishment from parents, potentially painful physical punishment – extra incentive to learn to keep secrets; learning to dissemble in a way that’s not an outright lie.  As a child we learn to keep stuff that can hurt or embarrass us a secret.  One such being that any expression of non-maleness; an absolute taboo." READ MORE...

Prompt #122 Faking Orgasms

Tuesday, 29 October 2019

F4Thought #121 - Secrets

Secrets #F4Thought
#F4Thought #121 Secrets
Photo by Floss Liddell & Used With Permission
Last week’s prompt of ‘The Road Not Travelled’ saw some amazing and truly heartfelt posts in the link-up. This week’s Spotlight Post was a Spotlight Round-up which was done by Swirling Fire. She chose posts from Melody Insights, Francesca Demont and Steeled Snake Charmer. Read her thoughts in F4Thought #120 - Round-Up

Prompt #121 - Secrets

From little secrets that are relatively harmless to big secrets that can change the course of someone’s life, we’ve all experienced some kind of secret-keeping in our lifetime. Sometimes they are best shared, sometimes the less said about them the better. What kind of secrets have you kept? And which ones have you shared?

Monday, 28 October 2019

F4Thought #120 - Round Up

f4thought #120 Round up
#f4thought #120 Round up by Swirly  

With over twenty wonderful posts it seemed like it would be best to have a spotlight three. Thanks again to Annie Savoy for letting us use her image as the header and without further ado I will hand over to Swirly who has chosen the round up for this week... Many thanks to Swirly too ;-)

Spotlight Round up Week #120

Monday, 21 October 2019

F4Thought #120 - The Road Not Taken

#F4Thought #120 ~ The Road Not Taken

#F4Thought #120 ~ The Road Not Taken ~ what kind of person do you think you would be, or what would you be doing now, if you had taken a different road?

Some very emotive themes were bought up for last weeks topic of moments and memories. I was grateful that Melody was choosing the spotlight with so many great entries to chose from.

Spotlight Post #119 ~ by Melody

The 'Memories' prompt for #F4Thought was one I was going to sit out. So I was delighted to be asked to
the road not taken
#119 Spotlight Post
take part by picking the spotlight post.

The posts were as varied as I hoped for. Some memories being tough, others poignant and some being more whimsical. I don't look at this as picking a winner, it's too subjective for that. When it comes to choosing a post it boils down to the very intangible 'how did it make me feel?'

To this end I've chosen "These Moments In Time" by Submissy. It reminded me just how much the big things depend on grasping and enjoying the little things that can seem inconsequential and in doing so brought a big smile to my face.

"The moments made are the little things, the things that we could easily do without, those moments in time that, once passed, will never be thought of again. They are insignificant to the turning of the wheels of life but so important nonetheless. Without them, something never-known and never-missed is lost. With them, something undetectable and unquantifiable is gained. It is a strange irony but I have tried to grasp those thoughts and make them moments in time, for from those small gestures, larger things are born." READ MORE...

Prompt #120 The Road Not Taken

Tuesday, 15 October 2019

F4Thought #119 - Memories, Moments and Wanting More

Memories, Moments & Wanting More #F4Thought
#F4Thought #119 Memories, Moment & Wanting More
We got a wonderful variety of posts last week, some focusing on safewords in the BDSM contexts, other considering words that made our fellow bloggers feel safe within their relationship or sexual dynamics. Thank you to Francesca Demont for suggesting the prompt for us, we also left the tough choice of which post would be the spotlight post this week. I think you’ll agree she picked a fab one. 

Spotlight Post #118

When I proposed the prompt for F4Thought #118, I had no idea what responses it would
#F4TSpotlight by Francesca Demont
generate.  I was just curious how others felt about the use of safewords or words that make you feel safe. The experience that is reflected in the thought-provoking posts is obviously impossible to capture in a single highlight.  The post that prompted me to sit up and think about my own experience came from Sweetgirl. 

“I know there are some long term couples who rarely use their Safewords, so much so, that they might say they don’t need one, but, it could be argued that this is because they do not push into those RED areas anymore, they are content within the scope of play they have.” Read More

Prompt #119 - Memories, Moments and Wanting More

Tuesday, 8 October 2019

F4Thought #118 - Safe Words

#F4Thought #116 ~ safe words
#F4Thought #118 ~ Safe Words 

I have loved all your kissing posts. Some had me longing for that kiss that makes butterflies flutter in your stomach. Often when you have just met someone. But it was wonderful to read so many of you still experience that with a long-term partner. 

Spotlight Post #117

So choosing just one of the posts was difficult. But I found I couldn't quite forget what Annabel wrote
safe words
#F4Thought #117 Spotlight Post
about her early days with Raven. A part of me is envious of people who have stuck with their first love/first kiss person. This post made me feel all of that – and it is super hot too.

The kiss is all consuming. I am no longer aware of anything outside of our embrace. I can no longer hear his siblings bantering in the other room. I am intensely focused on the feelings I am experiencing. I find myself in familiar territory of yearning for something but not really knowing what it is. So as we are prone to doing, we start exploring each other to see what offers us relief or heightens the sensation.”    READ MORE …

Prompt #118 ~ Safe Words OR Words that make you feel Safe...

Tuesday, 1 October 2019

F4Thought #117 - Kissing

Kissing #F4Thought
#F4Thought #117 Kissing
Thank you to everyone who joined us for our first week back after our break as we set the wheels in motion for our new schedule. We returned with a fairly intense topic but you didn’t let us down and we got a great variety of posts. 

#116 Spotlight Post

#F4TSpotlight Post
Choosing a spotlight post for a topic like this isn’t easy. Each one shared a unique experience and I nodded along in agreement with so many of the thoughts shared. The piece that really got me in the feels though was Me, You, Us by Zebra Rose. Not only were the points made all too relatable but it was also beautifully written. 

You’re allowed to say no. You’re free to decline. You don’t owe anyone your attention or affection, and you shouldn’t have to sacrifice yourself to earn theirs. But beware; if you choose rejection, you do so at your own risk.’ Read More

Prompt #117 - Kissing

Tuesday, 24 September 2019

F4Thought #116 - Me Too

#F4Thought #116 ~ Me Too
#F4Thought #116 ~ Me Too

We are back after a short break and have a new schedule.
F4Thought will now run from Tuesday morning until Sunday evening – UK Time. 

This gives us plenty of time to choose a spotlight post or write a roundup if needed.

The last prompt #115 was all about Music and you can take a look at my spotlight picks here. Not to mention we published a fabulous SoSS post the other day and could not believe all the amazing articles you guys have written over the fifteen weeks Floss and I have been hosting the meme. 

Onto this week.

Prompt #116 #MeToo - your understanding and/or experience.

Saturday, 21 September 2019

#SOSS - A F4Thought Special

#SOSS A F4Thought Special
#SOSS - A #F4Thought Special
As you all know we took a break from Food for Thought this past week to allow us to begin again on Tuesday 24th September with a new schedule. The last 15 weeks of hosting F4Thought has been incredible and we have been overwhelmed with the support you’ve all shown us and your willingness to get involved. 

Each week we feature a spotlight post, or three if we get above 25 entries to any given prompt. Choosing those spotlight posts each week wasn’t always easy because quite often we really loved more than one post. Also because we take turns in choosing we don’t always have the same favourites. So May came up with a fabulous idea that would allow us to share more of the posts we loved.

Tuesday, 17 September 2019

F4Thought Changes

F4Thought Changes
#F4Thought Changes
Food 4 Thought will return at 10am (UK time) on Tuesday the 24th September.
The meme will now be open each week from Tuesday 10am until Sunday 10pm.(UK Time).

Friday, 13 September 2019

F4TFriday #115 - Round Up

#F4TFriday #115 - Round Up
#F4TFriday #115 - Round Up

Normally we just choose one spotlight entry if there are less than 25 links to Food for Thought. This week we received 20 amazing posts and because we don't have the next prompt until the 24th – details coming shortly – I realised I would need to do a separate post anyway, so you know what? I have three in the spotlight! But I've not told Floss because the first one is hers.

Friday, 6 September 2019

F4TFriday #115 - Music On! World Off!

Music On! World Off! #F4TFriday
#F4TFriday #115 Music On! World Off!
There was a wonderful variety of posts for last week’s topic of Nightmares which was kindly suggested by Sweetgirl. Each week we are keen to let everyone know that the questions we ask related to the prompt are just a guide, and even the topic itself is open to interpretation and I think we saw the benefit of that approach this week. 

The agreement May and I have is less than 25 posts results in us highlighting one spotlight post, 25 and over results in a top three and a round-up post. This week it falls to me to choose the spotlight post from all the fabulous entries. 

#114 Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post
As is often, well actually always, the case when I have to highlight writing in some way I’m always drawn to the one that moved me most. Which means this week’s spotlight post is When nightmares intrude by Kisungura. 

‘The types of visual nightmares I experience today feel the same as then, and can trigger an overwhelming fight, flight, freeze or fawn response in me, depending on the severity of the intrusive thought.’ Read More …

Prompt #115 - Music On! World Off!

Friday, 30 August 2019

F4TFriday #114 - Nightmares

molly moore nightmares
#F4TFriday #114 ~ Nightmares
Floss's prompt for #113 certainly inspired lots of you into posting. We have both so enjoyed reading all your words about why you blog. 

Many bloggers have done a great job of writing a post that covers more than one of the weekly memes – in fact I did that myself. It is something to consider each week if you link to memes on a regular basis, particularly now the F4tFriday questions are merely guidance, write whatever you want to about the prompt topic. We are always happy for you to link up an older post and update it with the F4t badge, or write a fiction piece.

#113 Spotlight Post

This week there is a spotlight roundup post which focuses on three of last week entries - You can check out the post here. The roundup included - Malflic, Asrai and Elliott Henry.

Prompt #114 Nightmares (&/or Dreams)

F4TFriday #113 - Round Up

F4TFriday #113 - Round Up
#F4TFriday #113 - Round Up
With thirty entries this week for Floss's excellent choice of Food for Thought topic - the Why of Blogging, the task falls for me to choose three bloggers to put in the spotlight.

The fast turn around we have between prompt posts means I have to do this is super-fast time. That is one of the reasons we will be changing the start and end times for this meme in a few weeks. Information coming soon.

However I have been reading tweeting and making notes as the week has progressed so the difficult bit is narrowing it from my shortlist of six to a roundup of three and publish.

Friday, 23 August 2019

F4TFriday #113 - The Why of Blogging

The Why of Blogging #F4TFriday #113
#F4TFriday #113 The Why of Blogging

#113 - The Why of Blogging

Thank you to everyone who was inspired to share their thoughts on the prompt chosen by Swirly - ‘Rituals.' It’s interesting to see the various aspects of life where we all embrace rituals, or in some cases how folks don't place importance on rituals. We got beautifully varied perspectives and we loved it. The spotlight post this week has been chosen by the talented Cousin Pons. Let me hand you over to him...

#112 - Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post by Cousin Pons

Thank you to all nineteen writers for your posts on the subject of Rituals. I have been taken on an emotional journey through posts containing pain, suffering, joy, elation, sadness and moments filled with humour. For some rituals and routines are the bedrock of their lives and for others they are the habits, which rumble along, almost unnoticed. It was difficult to choose. So many excellent posts. I loved Mr More's and some of the others were very moving and my eyes are still full of tears of laughter after reading Nero's entry.

The post I would like to put in the Spotlight is Rituals and Memories by Swirling Fire. I have always been interested in memory and the tricks it can play on us. Swirling Fire describes, in her very matter of fact way, how her well structured and ordered day, was suddenly thrown into a sickening turmoil by the arrival of a text just before she went to work. It was an innocuous text but the timing of it precisely mirrored a dreadful one she had received years earlier.

“It took me to the exact second of receiving a mindWizard text in the past, it was early in the day, before work, and timed the day before a long pre-arranged weekend together. Coldly Informing me that he had a new woman. We would not be communicating in future. I had also spent money on new lingerie, outfits, turned down work bookings, looking forward to spending time with him. It never once crossed my mind the sentiment was not reciprocated. The tidal wave of manipulation and hurt was a full body blow that I couldn’t calm. Why my mind creates these painful synapses needs to be explored and worked upon. It’s an unkind unhelpful reflex.” Read More...

Prompt #113 - The Why of Blogging

Friday, 16 August 2019

F4TFriday #112 - Rituals

#F4TFriday #112 ~ Rituals rites
#F4TFriday #112 ~ Rituals

We are very happy with our growing #f4tFriday community. Thank you to all who got involved again or for the first time last week.

#111 Spotlight Post

The Spotlight post turned into a spotlight top3 as we had so many lovely entries from you guys. Thank you so much for supporting the meme.

The Round Up included Posy Churchgate, Zebra Rose and Kurvy Kinkster. Please take a look at the Round Up post... 

Prompt #112 Rituals

F4TFriday #111 - Round Up

F4TFriday #111 - Round Up
#F4TFriday #111 - Round Up

The prompt Words to Live By from Floss has really got so many of you thinking. We'd particularly like to welcome all those bloggers who have linked up for the first time. Great to have you as part of our growing community.

The task of choosing the spotlight post is mine this week. Floss and I agreed sometime ago that if the F4tFriday entries reached 25 we would have a top three roundup. So I am very happy to say here it is!

Friday, 9 August 2019

F4TFriday #111 - Words To Live By

Words To Live By #F4TFriday #111
#F4TFriday #111 Words To Live By

#111 - Words To Live By

For a while, I was worried that even talking about taboos was taboo, but so many of you came through for us and your posts were amazing. This has been the highest engagement ever for us since May and I took over the F4TFriday helm, so a huge thank you to contributors old and new for supporting us as we endeavour to make Kilted Wookie proud of the project he started. 

#110 Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post
There were so many awesome posts on sexual taboos and why society encourages taboos, but none of them made me shout ‘YES! That should be a taboo’ quite like the post ‘What is Taboo?’ from Steeled Snake Charmer.

‘Except…I guess things were. Taboo in my life was saying something nasty about someone because of gender or race or sexual orientation or income or…whatever. Anything that was judgmental was stopped and discussed. Respect for people was paramount. My parents dropped friends and distanced themselves from family who could not be respectful of others.’ Read More

Prompt #111 - Words To Live By

Friday, 2 August 2019

F4TFriday #110 - Taboo

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#F4TFriday #110 ~ Taboo

There was quite a lot of thinking out of the box for last weeks prompt of Face Value. Many thanks to all who joined in. Floss and I really want to make this meme all about you guys, and what you want to write about. Please get in touch with prompt ideas.

#109 Spotlight Post

A few weeks ago PJAWoode chose our very popular prompt of Selfies. Now he is back to pick the spotlight post for us.

I was really happy to get involved with F4tFriday again. The prompt of Face Value from Posy struck
f4tfriday spotlight #109 and taboo #110
Spotlight #109
a chord with many. Indeed her own post was very touching – particularly the comment that blogging makes her proud.

For some, masks are essential and part of their very essence. For others they are more problematic. The open exchange of thoughts, feelings and insights has been very humbling.

My standout spotlight post is from Submissy. Her post is wonderfully profound and really resonated with me. She says...

I am not sure you can ever really feel that you know the true make up of another person, even though you can know and appreciate their value to you. We all have hidden parts and various masks that we adorn in order to do what we need or want to do. Read More...

I would also like to give an honourable mention to Steeled Snake Charmer.

Yes, maybe I could be “all” of me all of the time. But, I really feel authentic in myself even when covering up parts of my life. I don’t lie, but I don’t share. These are private parts of me that I choose to share with the right people.

Prompt #110 Taboo

Friday, 26 July 2019

F4TFriday #109 - Judging Things at Face Value

Judging Things at Face Value #F4TFriday #109
#F4TFriday #109 Judging Things at Face Value

#109 - Judging Things at Face Value 

The selfie definitely got us all talking last week and not only did we get some fabulous words about them but also some actual images too, which were all delightful. Thank you so much for linking up to Food For Thought. 

#108 Spotlight Post

Spotlight Post
I think many of us will have related to the post shared by Deviant Succubus. Her thoughts on control in relation to the images she shares and faking her confidence levels definitely had me nodding along to many of her points …

And people, there goes a lot of work into faking confidence! You need to wear that mask and you need to wear it well! It is about accentuating the parts of yourself that you like, and hiding those you find terrible. It is about seeming calm and in control, and very much about the way you hold your head up high when walking down the street. But the best way to fake confidence? Posting selfies of yourself! Read More …

Prompt #109 - Judging things at Face Value

Thursday, 25 July 2019

Selfies - Guest Post

Selfies guest post Muse dreamer
#F4tFriday Selfies Guest Post from Muse Dreamer

Introduction by May More.

I have been following Muse Dreamer for some time now and really enjoy the photos, mainly selfies that she posts on Twitter. When this prompt was suggested I immediately thought of her and a few others who constantly put out stunning shots on Twitter. I suggested that Muse get involved and here she is with some fabulous selfie shots for us to enjoy. Please welcome her to Food for Thought...

Selfies Guest Post from Muse Dreamer

Friday, 19 July 2019

F4TFriday #108 - Selfies.

selfies posy churchgate
#F4TFriday #108 Selfies ~ Image copyright, Posy Churchgate

We had some very entertaining posts on the subject of Movies last week. Thank you all for linking up with Food for Thought.

#107 Spotlight Post
The post by El Byrne left it's mark on me in more ways than one. She is so right about her
Spotlight Post
assessment of the movie A Star is Born but then she goes into personal details about her own life and situations which look as if they were running parallel to the film script.

They really appreciate you at your job. Well done. I wish my job appreciated me. You know they always say they are going to promote me but they don’t. I can’t do anything right. Read More...

Prompt #108 ~ Selfies

Friday, 12 July 2019

#F4TFriday #107 - Mmmm ... Movies

Mmmm ... Movies #F4TFriday #107
#F4TFriday #107 Mmmm ... Movies

Thank you for another fabulous week, your thoughts on ‘crazy’ were utterly fabulous. There was a wide range of choices for the spotlight post but I finally managed to make a decision. 

#106 Spotlight Post

When I read Violet Grey’s post about hypocrisy I very nearly whooped at my screen whilst hollering ‘you tell ‘em, Violet’. The behaviours Violet discusses drive me to the edge of distraction and because she voiced something I feel so strongly about I couldn’t not choose it for my spotlight post. 

‘One thing that absolutely makes my blood boil is ignorance. Now, I don’t mean if you innocently just don’t know something and wish to learn, I mean the ignorance where people are exclusionary, prejudiced and just outright awful to others for ridiculous reasons.’

Prompt #107 ~ Mmm … Movies

Friday, 5 July 2019

F4TFriday #106 - Crazy

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#F4TFriday #106 is - Crazy!
Thank you to all of you who linked up to the topic of Communication last week. It is such an important issue to tackle within any relationship.

#105 Spotlight Post

This week the spotlight post is from Marie. Her entry really resonated with me. Particularly this quote

“You might think it is, but for me conscious and clear communication is definitely not a given. In my head I can form perfect sentences, have the perfect conversation, and I can say the things I really want to say, but the moment I enter a conversation, I can’t think of anything I wanted to say, and my words seem to come out all garbled and twisted. Sometimes with discussions it takes me days to think of what I actually should have said, as I can feel quite blown over by people who always seem to have their words ready. I don’t.”  Read More...

Prompt #106 ~ Crazy

Friday, 28 June 2019

F4TFriday #105 - Conscious Communication

Conscious Communication #F4TFriday #105
#F4TFriday #105 Conscious Communication
It was a rollercoaster of emotions reading last week's posts for our 'Near Misses' topic.
Thank you to May for getting the cogs whirring on that one and to everyone who shared their experiences whether they made us laugh or cry, and trust me they did both, we were very grateful for them.

#104 Spotlight Post

This was a tough choice, A Near Miss from Jupiter Grant is the one that got me right in the feels though. Despite the very different experiences and the ways in which we expressed our struggles, so much of her post resonated with me and I suspect that will also hold true for others. I know how hard posts like this are to write and we are truly blessed when our fellow bloggers open up to us. 

'The insidious thing about depressive illness is that it snuck up on me and it was only upon reflection, after the worst had passed and with the help of therapy, that I saw how the illness had been building over a period of years, how there were warning signs and triggers. Unfortunately, at the time I had no idea how damaging their cumulative effect could be.'

Prompt #105 ~ Conscious Communication


F4TFriday #101 - Room 101

#F4TFriday #101 is Room 101 Today is the 101st prompt for Food For Thought Friday . And we have to wave a fond, yet sad, farewell to...