Friday, 19 July 2019

F4TFriday #108 - Selfies.

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#F4TFriday #108 Selfies ~ Image copyright, Posy Churchgate

We had some very entertaining posts on the subject of Movies last week. Thank you all for linking up with Food for Thought.

#107 Spotlight Post
The post by El Byrne left it's mark on me in more ways than one. She is so right about her
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assessment of the movie A Star is Born but then she goes into personal details about her own life and situations which look as if they were running parallel to the film script.

They really appreciate you at your job. Well done. I wish my job appreciated me. You know they always say they are going to promote me but they don’t. I can’t do anything right. Read More...




Prompt #108 ~ Selfies

Friday, 12 July 2019

#F4TFriday #107 - Mmmm ... Movies

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#F4TFriday #107 Mmmm ... Movies


Thank you for another fabulous week, your thoughts on ‘crazy’ were utterly fabulous. There was a wide range of choices for the spotlight post but I finally managed to make a decision. 


#106 Spotlight Post



When I read Violet Grey’s post about hypocrisy I very nearly whooped at my screen whilst hollering ‘you tell ‘em, Violet’. The behaviours Violet discusses drive me to the edge of distraction and because she voiced something I feel so strongly about I couldn’t not choose it for my spotlight post. 


‘One thing that absolutely makes my blood boil is ignorance. Now, I don’t mean if you innocently just don’t know something and wish to learn, I mean the ignorance where people are exclusionary, prejudiced and just outright awful to others for ridiculous reasons.’


Prompt #107 ~ Mmm … Movies

Friday, 5 July 2019

F4TFriday #106 - Crazy


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#F4TFriday #106 is - Crazy!
Thank you to all of you who linked up to the topic of Communication last week. It is such an important issue to tackle within any relationship.

#105 Spotlight Post

This week the spotlight post is from Marie. Her entry really resonated with me. Particularly this quote

“You might think it is, but for me conscious and clear communication is definitely not a given. In my head I can form perfect sentences, have the perfect conversation, and I can say the things I really want to say, but the moment I enter a conversation, I can’t think of anything I wanted to say, and my words seem to come out all garbled and twisted. Sometimes with discussions it takes me days to think of what I actually should have said, as I can feel quite blown over by people who always seem to have their words ready. I don’t.”  Read More...


Prompt #106 ~ Crazy

Friday, 28 June 2019

F4TFriday #105 - Conscious Communication

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#F4TFriday #105 Conscious Communication
It was a rollercoaster of emotions reading last week's posts for our 'Near Misses' topic.
Thank you to May for getting the cogs whirring on that one and to everyone who shared their experiences whether they made us laugh or cry, and trust me they did both, we were very grateful for them.

#104 Spotlight Post


This was a tough choice, A Near Miss from Jupiter Grant is the one that got me right in the feels though. Despite the very different experiences and the ways in which we expressed our struggles, so much of her post resonated with me and I suspect that will also hold true for others. I know how hard posts like this are to write and we are truly blessed when our fellow bloggers open up to us. 

'The insidious thing about depressive illness is that it snuck up on me and it was only upon reflection, after the worst had passed and with the help of therapy, that I saw how the illness had been building over a period of years, how there were warning signs and triggers. Unfortunately, at the time I had no idea how damaging their cumulative effect could be.'

Prompt #105 ~ Conscious Communication

Monday, 24 June 2019

Near Miss ~ Guest Post

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#f4tFriday Near Miss ~ Guest Post PJA Woode

A few of you might know that the reason I indulge in all this glorious smut stuff is that my sex life at home is as vanilla as vanilla gets. Sex is for Sunday mornings. Same position. Same movements. My OH comes first. I come second. She receives. I give.

And that is it. Anything else is just not on the menu . Masturbation is a sin. Reading erotic tales or watching porn is so far beyond a 'no, no' it is untrue. And, before you ask, yes I have suggested we might push our very limited boundaries, on numerous occasions and in numerous ways, but the door is very firmly shut.

Friday, 21 June 2019

F4TFriday #104 - A Near Miss

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#F4TFriday #104 is - A Near Miss

What a great question from Floss for last weeks prompt. Many thanks to all who ventured in ;-)
This week it is my turn(May) to host and also chose a spotlight post from last weeks entries... 

#103 Spotlight Post

All the posts from #103 were just marvelous – I mean it. Floss and I are so chuffed with your support of the meme.

My spotlight post this week is this one from Melody. You will totally understand why I chose this entry when you read the quote:

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Ask me at about the youngest age I can remember and I’d have described something like this picture. I wanted to grow up to be the maiden tied to the tracks.
I’m not sure I cared about some dumb handsome lumberjack coming to rescue me. I cared about being bound and helpless – oh, and female. ReadMore...




But I also want to give an honourable mention to Purple's Gem for their entry.

Prompt #104 ~ A Near Miss

Thursday, 20 June 2019

When I Grow Up ~ Guest Post

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#F4TFriday When I grow up - Guest Post PJA Woode

The first 'naughty' magazine I saw when I was a fairly young had a profound effect on me. It was very well thumbed as it had done the rounds. Thankfully I don't recall any pages being stuck together. Yes, I really shouldn't have looked as I was not 18 at the time. And, yes, it almost certainly portrayed the women in a very false, very sexist, very male-centric way.

Friday, 14 June 2019

F4TFriday #103 - When I Grow Up

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#F4TFriday #103 is When I Grow Up
Thank you for another great week on Food For Thought Friday and big thanks to May who provided us with last weeks topic, this week that particular challenge falls to me before I discuss that though it's spotlight time for my favourite post from last week. 

#102 Spotlight Post

This week @_Masterseye takes the spotlight position. I LOVED her post Mistakes. Not only do I think it will resonate with many of us, but I also hope her 'I will' section of the post reminds us all to approach our own lives in just the same way. However, it is her 'I should' section that I take my quote from, because how could I not ...


"I should have remembered that I am a FUCKING QUEEN
I should have made sure my husband knew it
I should have owned it, put on the mantle and worn the crown'
Prompt #103 - When I Grow Up

Friday, 7 June 2019

F4TFriday #102 - Mistakes

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#F4TFriday #102 Mistakes
Floss and I would like to say a massive thank you to everyone who joined in this week. We really appreciate your support for our first Food for Thought Friday. Your posts were packed with lots of scary fears and loathsome hates.

#101 Spotlight Post  

I want to highlight this entry by Jaime. I am very much used to reading his hot fiction. Sometimes he writes a post which is not only informative but extremely honest and from the heart.   

 

"So Stupidity scares me. Humans need to become more intelligent and prize intelligence more. But that is still not what scares me most. What scares me most is being without a lover, or living unloved."

 

Prompt #102 ~ Mistakes

The topic for discussion this week is MISTAKES.

Friday, 31 May 2019

F4TFriday #101 - Room 101


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Today is the 101st prompt for Food For Thought Friday. And we have to wave a fond, yet sad,
farewell to its creator Kilted Wookie who at present needs to devote his time elsewhere. Thankfully two fair maidens have agreed to look after the meme for him.

Friday, 24 May 2019

F4TFriday #100 - Landmarks

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This is the 100th Food For Thought Friday prompt. If you'd asked me when I started this meme if I ever thought I'd manage to keep it going this long, I would almost certainly have said "no". That it has kept going so long is, in the main, down to the support of those of you (59 of you so far) who have provided contributions week after week to the questions that I and several others have set. So, I would like to offer sincere and very heartfelt thanks to those that have supported and contributed.

This is, however, to be the last prompt that I will be setting. Sadly I no longer have time to devote to this project. However, all is not lost. The lovely May (@May_Matters) of Sex Matters, and Floss (@_floss_84) of Floss Does Life have kindly agreed to step in and take up the reins to keep this meme alive.

Friday, 17 May 2019

F4TFriday #99 - Picture This

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Most, if not all of us, have taken "sexy"/"naughty" photos of ourselves at one point or another. It may have been for your own personal collection, to send to a partner, or perhaps you posted it to a meme such as Sinful Sunday, February Photo Fest or Scavenger Hunt.

Some of us take them for the challenge (and risks) of taking such photos, some out of a sense of exhibitionism, some for the enjoyment of others and some people do it to help with their own self image/self esteem. Most of us, quite possibly do it for a combination of these reasons (or more) in varying proportions.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Friday, 10 May 2019

F4TFriday #98 - Spread A Little Love

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The sex blogging community is, above all, a community. We discuss topics that people find difficult to be open about, we promote body/sex/self positivity, we share our experiences, our hopes and fears, and we do it in the knowledge that our fellow bloggers do not judge us.

Having said that, scratch the surface of any blogger hard enough and, underneath you will find a regular human being, who has their own particular tastes and likes.  Part of what makes this community so great is its diversity; the range and breadth of content from contributors is such that there is something out there for everyone to enjoy.

So, in the interests of sharing some love and support for the community of which we are part, we would like you to do something a little different:

Friday, 3 May 2019

F4TFriday #97 - Puting Others First

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Humans tend to be programmed to focus on their own needs. This isn't necessarily a selfish thing, we need to look after ourselves simply to survive, and we have done a number of prompts in the past about self-care and looking after ourselves.

It is, however, part of our make-up to look after and attend to the needs of those that we care for and who care for us, whether this be in some form of D/s dynamic, or simply as a result of sharing our lives with other people, be they friends, family or partners.

This week's questions are, as always, open to interpretation and may (or may not) be sex related, but what we want to know is:

Friday, 26 April 2019

F4TFriday #96 - Who Would You Do?

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Many of us have our "Fantasy Fuck List" - those people, be they celebrities, colleagues, friends, or possibly just the barista who serves you your coffee in the morning, that for one reason or another, we fantasise about doing naughty things with or to.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you have such a list? Who is on it?

Have you ever had sex with someone famous, be it a local celebrity or a major star? How did it come to happen?

Friday, 19 April 2019

F4TFriday #95 - Getting Things Going

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The type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.

Whether it's the former or latter of the above scenarios, or something that lies somewhere in between, things have to start somewhere. So, this week, what we want to know is:

Friday, 12 April 2019

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

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As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Friday, 5 April 2019

F4TFriday #93 - The Good, The Bad And The Indifferent

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We all like to think that we're good at doing the things we do. Sex is no different; no one wants to think that they are bad at it. If we are being honest with ourselves, however, we will almost certainly admit that we are better at some things than we are at others.

Often, the things we are "best" at, are those things we enjoy doing most, and we are less good as those activities that we are less keen on.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
What would you consider are your particular sexual strengths?

Is there anything that you feel you could, or want to do better?

Have you ever been told you are particularly good at something?

Are there any activities that you are completely indifferent about, but do them anyway?
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Friday, 29 March 2019

F4TFriday #92 - Where Do You Go To?

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As Peter Sarstedt famously sang:
"Where do you go to my lovely, when you're alone in your bed?

Tell me the thoughts that surround you,I want to look inside your head"
Alone time, or making time for yourself is an important, if often overlooked part of looking after ourselves. Sometimes we need space for ourselves, simply to be ourselves.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How often do you make time for yourself?

What do you do to gain the most benefit from your "you time"?

How do you balance the time you devote to yourself and to others? Which do you prioritise? Why?
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Friday, 22 March 2019

F4TFriday #91 - At A Loss

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Usually, loss is seen as a negative. This is understandable as it generally means that we no longer have something of value, be it a possession, a relationship or sometimes even just a particular thought or emotion.

Sometimes, however, loss, or getting lost, can be a good thing. We stumble upon somewhere/something/someone new, it results in us making discoveries, it alters our view on things, and can take our lives in new and (possibly) exciting directions.

Whether the outcome is good, or bad, loss inevitable means change, so, this week, what we want to know is:
What was your most significant loss?

How did you deal with it?

How has that (or any other) loss affected your life?
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Friday, 15 March 2019

F4TFriday #90 - Gone Awry

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Sex, when everything "works" is fantastic. Sadly however, even when the mind is willing, our bodies can let us down. Stress, tiredness, illness, having the cat jump on the bed as you are approaching climax (or is that one just me?) can all sometimes cause things to go awry and for the best and naughtiest of intentions to fall short of where we wanted them to take us.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Have you had an experience where either you, or your partner just weren't able to "follow through" with the mood? Is it something that happens regularly

How did you feel at the time?

How do you manage these situations? Are you ever able to get back "in the swing"? If so how?

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Friday, 8 March 2019

F4TFriday #89 - The Food Of Love

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Certain foods, drink, candle light, a certain song, a particular scent, Wednesdays; there are all kinds of things that people consider aphrodisiacs.

Different people are turned on by different things, so, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you have a go to aphrodisiac?

What things help put you in a sexy mood?

Do you have a favourite "love potion/cocktail" that you know your partner cannot resist?

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BIG "Thank you!" this week to Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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Friday, 1 March 2019

F4TFriday #88 - In Your Dreams

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Sex dreams: many of us have had them at one time or another. Sometimes they involve a partner, sometimes a celebrity crush, sometimes a complete stranger and sometimes a "real-life" crush. Usually, all very, well... perhaps innocent isn't quite the word, but harmless fun. Sometimes, the object of our semi-somnolent desire can be extremely inappropriate, a colleague, an authority figure, a best friend or someone that the idea of just gives you shivers (and not the good kind).

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How regularly, if at all, does sex occur in your dreams?

Is there a recurring partner in these dreams?

Who is the most inappropriate person to have featured in a sex dream?

If you have had a sex dream about a friend, did you tell them? How did they react?

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Friday, 22 February 2019

F4TFriday #87 - The Dating Game

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Much of the internet these days, it seems, is devoted to helping people either get together, get it on or, on occasion, both. Whether it be "traditional" dating sites such a "match" or "eHarmony" or more sex orientated sites like "fabswingers" or "adult friendfinder", or apps like Tinder or Grindr, there are countless ways of connecting with people for the purposes of sex and/or relationships.

Of course, it wasn't always like this. Those of us of a certain age remember (fondly or otherwise) trying to chat people up in bars or clubs, or being introduced/set up by mutual friends and acquaintances. As someone who has used both the new-fangled and old fashioned approaches, I'm not entirely sure that either way is better, or less apprehensive making than the other, but I digress.

So, what we want to know this week is:
Are you currently dating? If so, what is you preferred method of arranging a date?

If you are in a relationship, how did you meet your current partner and how long did it take before you realised you were "a couple"?

Share an amusing dating anecdote, or recount an experience of a date that went either badly wrong, or incredibly well. Are you still in touch with that person?

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Friday, 15 February 2019

F4TFriday #86 - Touchy-Feely

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Sex is, by its very nature, a highly sensual activity. Sight, sound, scent, and taste all add to and heighten the experience. Primarily though, sex is tactile. Whether you are on your own, or with a partner, touching, and being touched play a large part in igniting arousing and satisfying our sexual needs and desires.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How do you like to be touched?

How do you like to touch yourself?

Which parts/areas of you body do you most enjoy touching or having touched?

Which part of a partner's body do you most enjoy touching? Why is that?

Are there any parts of your body that you can't stand having touched?

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Friday, 8 February 2019

F4TFriday #85 - Getting Off

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Orgasms, it is said, come in one person sizes. We all, if we're lucky enough to have them, experience them in our own way. The only orgasms we ever truly experience are our own as they are almost entirely internal. What we feel is unique to us, our mood, the stimulation we're experiencing and the circumstances under which they are being experienced.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.

What is your favourite way to reach/be brought to a climax?

What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm? How long does it normally take you?

How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm? Typically, how often do you manage to get off?

Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally comes first?

Have you ever faked an orgasm? What were the reasons/circumstances that led you to fake it?

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Friday, 1 February 2019

F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

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Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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Friday, 25 January 2019

F4TFriday #83 - Obsessive Madness

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I am one of those people who believes that loving someone and being in love with someone are different things. The two things may be related; you may love and be in love with someone at the same time. On the other hand, they could be two distinct and discrete emotional states; the word "love" being a handy and simple linguistic shortcut for emotional states that are anything but simple to define.

So, guess what?  This week, that's exactly what we want you to try and do, by asking:
What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?
How does these differences colour and effect the way you interact with that person?
Where sex is involved, does the emotional layer affect its quality?
Where do lust and desire fit into this?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to May More, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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Friday, 18 January 2019

F4TFriday #82 - Reveaing All

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So, all of us, I would imagine, take our clothes off at some time and there can, obviously, be a host of non-sexual reasons for doing so: taking a shower, going to bed, a medical examination, etc. The chances are that, in doing so, we have undressed in the presence of others.

Sometimes, however, the intent is absolutely sexual; to provoke desire and elicit a lust-fueled response, or maybe just to tease, taunt and frustrate.

So, this week, it's all about stripping off, and we are asking:
Have you ever played any game, e.g strip poker, where removing clothes was a forfeit for losing? How far did you take it? Did you deliberately play to lose?
Have you ever danced naked in front of anyone? What prompted the experience?
Have you ever given a partner (or someone else) a private dance? Has someone ever done so for you?
Have or would you ever perform a lap dance/striptease for a complete stranger?
Would you consider, or have you ever, accepted payment to remove your clothes?
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Friday, 11 January 2019

F4TFriday #81 - What Time is Love?

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I admit, I'm showing my age, dredging up a classic KLF track from 1991 as the topic title this week. Sometimes though, these things just have to be done.

Some of us are morning people, bursting with energy even before the alarm clock has gone off. Others are more lunchtime/afternoon types, who need a little time to get properly into our stride. Then there are the evening/night people who catch their second second wind and come alive as the day winds down.

When it comes to sex, as is so often the case, a lot of it is down to available time, mood, location and circumstances and, while we may have our preferences, we grab our fun when we can.



What we want to know this week is:

What is your favourite time for getting it on? Do you prefer some horizontal cardio before getting out of bed? Do you like to fit in a quick session at lunchtime? Do you prefer a "nightcap" to wind down before you go to sleep?
Is it different at the weekends/on holidays to during the week?
What is it about a particular time of day (or night) that puts you in the mood?

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Friday, 4 January 2019

F4TFriday #80 - Fresh Starts & Clean Slates

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So, as the song said, "another year over, and a new one just begun..." We hope you had a wonderful festive/holiday season and now our attention turns to the coming year...

A new year is a new beginning; a time to put the past behind us and look to the future. So, this week we thought we'd ease everyone back in fairly gently, and keep things simple by asking:

What are your goals, dreams, ambitions for 2019?

What, if anything, do you plan to try and change about your life? Why?

Where do you see yourself in 12 months time?
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