Friday, 17 August 2018

F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions


As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 10 August 2018

F4TFriday #60 - Abrupt Endings

As we alluded to back in Week 47, sex isn't always as perfect as it is depicted in the movies.

Picture the scene: everything has moved along nicely, you're both in the zone and are making all the moves, climax is approaching and you both know it's going to be big one; and then...

The phone rings, there's a knock at the door, the cat jumps up on the bed, or any one of a number of other things happen that bring things to an untimely conclusion.

This week what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where you you have had to stop while "in full flow"? 
What happened? 
How did your partner react?
Were you able to get things "back on track" and if so, how?
 
BIG "Thank you!" this week to May Moore, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 3 August 2018

F4TFriday #59 - It's A Secret

Many people on Twitter use anonymous, or pseudonymous accounts. Within the sex-blogging community, many of us prefer to keep our actual identities "hidden" from the wider world.

So, this week we are exploring the topic online anonymity/pseudonymity by asking:

How "real" is your online persona?

Do you use a pseudonym, your real identity or both?

Where you use a pseudonym how open about your actual identity are you?

Is your anonymous/pseudonymous online self a secret or more a form of protective "camouflage"?
 
BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 27 July 2018

F4TFriday #58 - If I Had A Photograph...


A number of us in this community take part in the #SinfulSunday or FebPhotoFest memes run by Molly Moore, while others share photos via Boobday by Hyacinth Jones.

Even if you don't participate in memes or share photos online, many people take naughty/intimate photos to share with a partner and others take them simply for their own enjoyment.

So, this week, we are asking:

If you take risqué photographs, what is it that you enjoy most? The creativity, the composition, the feedback you get from those who see them?

If you participate in any of the memes above, what made you decide to take part? How did you feel the first time you linked a post for others to see?

How comfortable are you sharing semi-nude/nude/sexually explicit photos of yourself, either online or via a "sext"?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 20 July 2018

F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Wednesday, 11 July 2018

F4TFriday #56 - Absent Friends

Cammies On The Floor
Like so many of us, we were shocked to learn of the passing of M from Cammies On The Floor. M was a long time friend of the site and a frequent contributor to this and many other memes that the members of this community run.

Her contributions were always well thought out, sexy, and often wickedly humourous and her passing leaves a large hole in the lives of all who knew her.

We aren't asking a question this week; somehow that just doesn't seem right. If, however, you have any memories you would like to share, please feel free to add them here.

Friday, 6 July 2018

F4TFriday #55 - Making Sense

Humans experience the world around them through their senses. Touch, taste, sight, sound and scent all combine to a greater or lesser degree to build up a picture of our surroundings.

Many of us have a dominant sense; some of us are visual, some are auditory, whereas others are tactile. Some of us have lost or have a restricted use of one or more senses, which impacts how we perceive and determine our world.

Sex, by its very nature, is a very sensual and sensory experience. So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you employ your senses to enhance your enjoyment of sex?

Which of your senses have the biggest impact on your enjoyment?

What effect does sensory deprivation (e.g. blindfolds, restraint) have on you?

If you have a sensory impairment or have lost the use of a sense, how has this affected you (if at all) sexually?
 
BIG "Thank you!" this week to SubmissiveJen for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 29 June 2018

F4TFriday #54 - Performing Arts

Generally speaking, sex, whether it be on your own or with a partner is something that is done in private; where the only people who know what is going on are the participants. That isn't always the case however; some of us have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in us.

So, this week we are interested in the idea of sex/masturbation as a performance, and what we want to know is, if either in person, or by some form of video chat (e.g. Skype):

Have you ever let your partner watch you masturbate? Has your partner ever let you watch them?
Have you ever let your partner watch you have sex with someone else? Has your partner ever  watched you have sex with someone else?
Have you ever deliberately let someone other than you partner watch you have sex?
Not counting film/TV, have you watched another person (other than your partner) masturbate or have sex? Did they know they were being watched?
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 22 June 2018

F4TFriday #53 - A Few Of Our Favourite Things

It is sometime said that being legally old enough to have sex and alcohol are the only compensations for having to endure "adult life". Now, I will admit to enjoying a glass or two of my favourite poison at the weekend, but because this blog concentrates more on the sex side of things, this week's poser goes something like this:

What are your favourite sexual things to do? 

What positions do you prefer and why?

Do you have a favourite place for having sex?

Is there something you think you would enjoy but haven't tried yet?
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 15 June 2018

F4TFriday #52 - Seduction

Modern life is busy, we all know that. Sometimes a quick wake-up shag, an opportunistic quickie, or a tired, end-of-day, semi-somnolent fumble and snuggle with benefits is all we have the time and energy to manage. There is nothing wrong with these; quick, time limited sex can still be great and is almost certainly better than none, but it is definitely nice, sometimes, to be able to devote considerably more time and effort to the proceedings. 

So, with this in mind, this week what we want to know is: 

Assuming you have no time constraints, what would your "ideal" experience be like?

When you are in the mood, do you have any seduction ploys that you like to use?

What do you like to do to prolong the pleasure for both you and your partner? 
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 8 June 2018

F4TFriday #51 - Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow?

Pubic hair, nature's dental-floss. Some of us let it grow wild and free, others tend to keep it under varying degrees of control, and some prefer to cast it all away and go smooth. How we style (or not) down below is a personal choice that we make for reasons of style, comfort, hygiene, or any of a range of factors.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How do you style your pubic hair? What were your reasons for choosing that style?

What are your preferences for a partner's styling?

Would you (or have you) ever change(d) your styling just to please a partner?

Friday, 1 June 2018

F4TFriday #50 - What I Know Now

Firstly, before I go any further, some of you may have noticed that 50 in the post header. Yes, that's right, this is the 50th "Food For Thought Friday" prompt. How on earth did that even happen?

I'd really like to thank everyone who has supported this meme since it started, especially those of you who have joined in since our relaunch; it really does mean so much. I would never have believed that when this started out, it would have lasted this long and had such wonderful support.

Which brings us by means of a rather unsubtle segue to this weeks topic. As we get older, while we may not necessarily become any wiser, we do accumulate more knowledge than we did 10, 20, or 30 years ago (apologies to anyone not actually old enough to have 30 years of memories).

So, this week, what we'd really love to know is:
What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

What one thing might shock that younger you?

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia? 

Friday, 25 May 2018

F4TFriday #49 - When Harry Met Sally

If you were expecting "THAT" clip, I'm sorry but you are going to be disappointed. No, instead we're are focusing on the assertion that men and woman cannot be friends because sooner or later one person whats to have sex with the other.

So, with that in mind, we are asking:



Do you agree with this assertion?

Have you ever had a friendship where one person did want to have sex with the other? Who was the "guilty" party, you or the other person. Was it reciprocated?

If you answered yes to the last part, did "it" happen?

"Yes" or "No" were there any consequences, god or bad? Did the friendship survive?

Friday, 18 May 2018

F4TFriday #48 - Rough or Smooth?

This week, we are looking at the prickly issue of facial hair, and we are splitting the questions along gender lines.

So, without further ado:

Ladies

What is your preference in a man, clean shaven, stubble, mustache, beard? Why?

If your preference is for beards, is there a particular style you prefer a man to have?

Are there any "benefits" to having smooth/facially hirsute partner?

Gentlemen

What is your preference in respect of your own face? Why?

If you have a partner, do they like your style? And again, why?
Would you change your look if your partner really wanted you to, even though you prefer the way you are?

Friday, 11 May 2018

F4TFriday #47 - Epic Fails

The trouble with sex on the television is that it's far too easy to fall off and hurt yourself...  Actually, while that may have been true in the days of bulky CRT sets, today's flat-screen devices have probably eliminated that risk.

Jokes aside though, sex as depicted on film and television is almost always perfect: zip fastenings never get stuck, no one ever gets their hair caught in their partner's watch strap, people never accidentally knee or elbow the other person when they change position and (unless it's porn), there's never any mess.

Real sex is, of course, often far from perfect, so this week we are asking:

What has been your most embarrassing sex "fail"?

How did it happen?

Were you able to laugh it off and move on, or did it bring things to an untimely conclusion?

Friday, 4 May 2018

F4TFriday #46 - Good Points, Well Made...

As humans, we find it far too easy to concentrate on our imperfections; those bits of us that are too big, too small, stick out too much or, don't stick out far enough. As a species, we seem to take a perverse kind of pleasure about making ourselves feel bad about ourselves.

In an attempt to redress the balance, even just a little, this week we are focussing on our good bits; so:

What bit (or bits) of your body do you like (or at the very least, don't feel too negatively inclined toward)? Why do you feel that way?
What bits of you have others (friends, partners, etc.) told you they liked? Did they tell you why they liked them?
How do you feel when someone compliments your body, particularly a bit that you yourself are less keen on?

Friday, 27 April 2018

F4TFriday #45 - That's So Inappropriate...

Sometimes we can't help ourselves. The urge, the desire, the need are simply too much to resist. Whether it's an intimate family celebration, at a gathering of friends, at a concert or the theatre, or maybe just in the queue for the taxi home after a night out; sometimes we just can't wait to get home to get down.

So, the question we are asking this week is:

Where is the most inappropriate place that you have engaged in any kind of sexual activity?

What did you do/how far did you go?

Did you get caught/interrupted?

Is there any location/situation that is on your fantasy "to-do" list?

Friday, 20 April 2018

F4TFriday #44 - Dare To Bare

I don't know what it's been like where you live, but here it has been a very long winter. Even in a climate as renowned for miserable weather as ours, the fact that it was still snowing after Easter, in April, doesn't do much in the way of filling you with the joys of spring.

So, with the onset of longer days, and hopefully warmer weather not too far off in the future, we turning our thoughts to the outdoors and enjoying the sunshine.  To that end, we are asking:

On a balmy summer day, how bare will you dare to go? T-shirt and shorts? bikini/swimsuit? Topless? Nude?

For those of you who bare all (or mostly all), what is it that you enjoy most about the experience.

For those who prefer to remain covered, are there any circumstances where you might consider baring more than you usually do?

Bonus: what is the best way to enjoy a warm summer's day, either with or without a partner?

Friday, 13 April 2018

F4TFriday #43 - Foot In Mouth Disease

You're in a club/bar/other location.  You've spotted someone who has taken your fancy. Glances have been exchanged and their body language is an invitation to approach.  You walk towards them, trying to come up with a good opening line, and then...

Yes, we're talking chat ups.

Do you have a tried and tested chat-up line?
Have you ever used, or had a really corny line used on you?  Did it work?
Are you calm and confident, or are you like Jeff?

Friday, 6 April 2018

F4TFriday #42 - Dating By Numbers

So, you're on a date and it's going well; very well... The chemistry is there, the attraction is there. All that both of you really want to do at this point is take it somewhere private and move things up to the next level, as it were.

On the assumption that both of you are definitely up for getting down, what we want to know this week is:

Does it matter how many dates you have had up to this point?
If it was clear things were definitely heading in that direction, would it make any difference if this were a first or subsequent date?
What, if any, are your "rules" for dating and sex?

Friday, 30 March 2018

F4TFriday #41 - Arousal

Arousal. It's one of those things that is sometimes difficult to define. Not the word itself, you can look that up easily enough in a dictionary, but the experience.

The things that turn us on can be many and varied and what puts one person in the mood, might switch another person off completely. Sometimes, something that normally works for you might have little or no effect at all.

So, this week, what we want to is:

Is there anything that is pretty much guaranteed to arouse you?

Do you have any "go to" tips, tricks or techniques that you use to arouse yourself and/or your partner? 

Friday, 23 March 2018

F4TFriday #40 - Under Wraps

Nudity is great. I am a lover of the human body in all its shapes, sizes, colours and varieties. Sometimes, however, it's good to leave a little something to the imagination.

So this week, we want to know:

What do you wear when you want to feel sexy/desirable?

What is the sexiest thing a member of the opposite sex can wear?

What, if anything, is that one item of clothing/footwear that really does it for you?

Friday, 16 March 2018

F4TFriday #39 - The Joys Of Sext?

Sexting (the sending of romantic/erotic/explicit text messages), while sometimes getting a bad press, when done with a trusted partner, can be a lot of fun; whether it be an exchange of flirty or romantic comments, right through to full on explicit depictions and descriptions of carnal intent.

So this week, we are asking:

Do you sext?

If you do, how do you do it? Tame? Flirty? Romantic? Explicit?

What have been the most embarrassing/exciting outcomes of a sext exchange?

Friday, 9 March 2018

F4TFriday #38 - On The Hook

The "hook-up" — A brief uncommitted sexual encounter between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other. Maybe it was a one-night stand, a weekend fling, or perhaps it's more of a "fuck buddy/friends with benefits" arrangements.

The reasons behind, and the consequences  of "hook-ups" can be many and varied.  With that in mind, this week we are asking:

Have you ever "hooked up" with someone just for sex?

How did you arrange it?

How did it make you feel?

Were there any consequences, good or bad, that arose from it?

Friday, 2 March 2018

F4TFriday #37 - What's Love Got To Do With It?

Love and sex; for some the two are inextricably linked, for others they are two separate, although sometimes complimentary, things. Everyone, it seems, has their own view on how much of an overlap there is between the emotional and the physical.

So, this week we are asking:

How essential is love to you in a sexual relationship?
Does love make sex better in any way?
Where sex is more than just something casual (e.g. a one-night stand), is it possible to fully detach the emotional and physical sides of sex?

Friday, 23 February 2018

F4TFriday #36 - Je Ne Regrette Rien?

Edith Piaf had no regrets at all. Frank Sinatra on the other hand, had a few.  So, what about you?

Yes, this week we are asking about regrets. So, with that in mind:

What, if any, are your greatest regrets?
Is it something you wish you had or hadn't done?
If you could do it again, how would you do it differently this time?

Friday, 16 February 2018

F4TFriday #35 - Tie Me Up! Time Me Down!

No, we're not actually referring to the 1989 Antonio Banderas film of the same name; we are in fact talking about restraint. From the lightest of restraint with silk scarves, through handcuffs to full on shibari, bondage/restraint can take many forms.  This week, we are asking:

Do you enjoy bondage/restraint?
Are you a rigger or do you prefer to be rigged?
What is the appeal of bondage/rope-play to you?

Friday, 9 February 2018

F4TFriday #34 - Out Of Kilter

A healthy sex life is seen to be an important part of a strong and healthy relationship. Sometimes though, for any number of reasons, the level of sexual desire can become unbalanced. So, to day we are asking:

How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match that of your partner?

Friday, 2 February 2018

F4TFriday #33 - The Taste Of Things To Come

Way back, in the very first Food For Thought Friday, we asked you about the importance of Oral Sex in a relationship. For the first question of the new #F4TFriday, we're returning to that subject.

In particular, what we want to know is:

What is it you particularly like (or dislike) about oral sex?
Do you prefer to give or receive?
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