F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #93 - The Good, The Bad And The Indifferent

 

We all like to think that we're good at doing the things we do. Sex is no different; no one wants to think that they are bad at it. If we are being honest with ourselves, however, we will almost certainly admit that we are better at some things than we are at others.

Often, the things we are "best" at, are those things we enjoy doing most, and we are less good as those activities that we are less keen on.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

What would you consider are your particular sexual strengths?

Is there anything that you feel you could, or want to do better?

Have you ever been told you are particularly good at something?

Are there any activities that you are completely indifferent about, but do them anyway?

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F4TFriday #89 - The Food Of Love

 

Certain foods, drink, candle light, a certain song, a particular scent, Wednesdays; there are all kinds of things that people consider aphrodisiacs.

Different people are turned on by different things, so, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you have a go to aphrodisiac?

What things help put you in a sexy mood?

Do you have a favourite "love potion/cocktail" that you know your partner cannot resist?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

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F4TFriday #77 - The Things We Do

 

When we talk about sex, the first thing that probably springs to most people's minds is the act of intercourse itself, or fucking as we here in our particular community often prefer to call it. There is, of course, more to sex than intercourse or fucking and, for some people, it may not even be the predominant sexual activity (if it is indulged in at all).

So this week, what we want to know is:

If intercourse (vaginal or anal) is not your main form of sexual activity, what do you do?

Is there a particular reason that intercourse is not your primary or predominant sexual activity?

For those people for whom intercourse is the predominant means of having sex, what other sexual activities do you frequently partake in?

Are there any activities that are definite no-go areas for you? Why is this? 

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet, author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #74 - Spicing It Up

 

Sex can be many things. It can be spontaneous, fun, serious, passionate, intense, angry, loving, comforting, lustful, or any combination of these things. Another thing it can become is routine and (whisper it) well, a little bit dull.

Even if you aren't into the full-scale BDSM or D/s scene, sometimes it's always good to add a bit of "slap and tickle" to your slap and tickle, just to add some novelty, spice things up and generally just inject some fun into the proceedings.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?

Have you ever used feathers during sex?

Have you ever used foodstuffs during sex? What did you use?

Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why/why not?

Do you like to be restrained during sex? Why/why not?

Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?

Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?

Is there anything else do you do to "spice things up"? 

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F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
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F4TFriday #54 - Performing Arts

Generally speaking, sex, whether it be on your own or with a partner is something that is done in private; where the only people who know what is going on are the participants. That isn't always the case however; some of us have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in us.

So, this week we are interested in the idea of sex/masturbation as a performance, and what we want to know is, if either in person, or by some form of video chat (e.g. Skype):

Have you ever let your partner watch you masturbate? Has your partner ever let you watch them?

Have you ever let your partner watch you have sex with someone else? Has your partner ever  watched you have sex with someone else?

Have you ever deliberately let someone other than you partner watch you have sex?

Not counting film/TV, have you watched another person (other than your partner) masturbate or have sex? Did they know they were being watched?

 
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F4TFriday #53 - A Few Of Our Favourite Things

It is sometime said that being legally old enough to have sex and alcohol are the only compensations for having to endure "adult life". Now, I will admit to enjoying a glass or two of my favourite poison at the weekend, but because this blog concentrates more on the sex side of things, this week's poser goes something like this:

What are your favourite sexual things to do? 

What positions do you prefer and why?

Do you have a favourite place for having sex?

Is there something you think you would enjoy but haven't tried yet?

 
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F4TFriday #52 - Seduction

Modern life is busy, we all know that. Sometimes a quick wake-up shag, an opportunistic quickie, or a tired, end-of-day, semi-somnolent fumble and snuggle with benefits is all we have the time and energy to manage. There is nothing wrong with these; quick, time limited sex can still be great and is almost certainly better than none, but it is definitely nice, sometimes, to be able to devote considerably more time and effort to the proceedings. 

So, with this in mind, this week what we want to know is: 

Assuming you have no time constraints, what would your "ideal" experience be like?

When you are in the mood, do you have any seduction ploys that you like to use?

What do you like to do to prolong the pleasure for both you and your partner? 

 
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F4TFriday #51 - Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow?

Pubic hair, nature's dental-floss. Some of us let it grow wild and free, others tend to keep it under varying degrees of control, and some prefer to cast it all away and go smooth. How we style (or not) down below is a personal choice that we make for reasons of style, comfort, hygiene, or any of a range of factors.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you style your pubic hair? What were your reasons for choosing that style?

What are your preferences for a partner's styling?

Would you (or have you) ever change(d) your styling just to please a partner?

F4TFriday #50 - What I Know Now

Firstly, before I go any further, some of you may have noticed that 50 in the post header. Yes, that's right, this is the 50^th "Food For Thought Friday" prompt. How on earth did that even happen?

I'd really like to thank everyone who has supported this meme since it started, especially those of you who have joined in since our relaunch; it really does mean so much. I would never have believed that when this started out, it would have lasted this long and had such wonderful support.

Which brings us by means of a rather unsubtle segue to this weeks topic. As we get older, while we may not necessarily become any wiser, we do accumulate more knowledge than we did 10, 20, or 30 years ago (apologies to anyone not actually old enough to have 30 years of memories).

So, this week, what we'd really love to know is:

What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

What one thing might shock that younger you?

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia? 

F4TFriday #40 - Under Wraps

Nudity is great. I am a lover of the human body in all its shapes, sizes, colours and varieties. Sometimes, however, it's good to leave a little something to the imagination.

So this week, we want to know:

What do you wear when you want to feel sexy/desirable?

What is the sexiest thing a member of the opposite sex can wear?

What, if anything, is that one item of clothing/footwear that really does it for you?

F4TF #16 - Kinky Fuckery

Apologies for using a term from 'that book', but this week we are asking you to share your deepest desires with us:

Do you have any fetishes?

Will you tell us about them; what they are, why you enjoy them, maybe how you developed them?

Are you ashamed or embarrassed by them or are you happy to be open about them? 

Do you think they are unusual?