F4TFriday #100 - Landmarks

 

This is the 100^th Food For Thought Friday prompt. If you'd asked me when I started this meme if I ever thought I'd manage to keep it going this long, I would almost certainly have said "no". That it has kept going so long is, in the main, down to the support of those of you (59 of you so far) who have provided contributions week after week to the questions that I and several others have set. So, I would like to offer sincere and very heartfelt thanks to those that have supported and contributed.

This is, however, to be the last prompt that I will be setting. Sadly I no longer have time to devote to this project. However, all is not lost. The lovely May (@May_Matters) of Sex Matters, and Floss (@_floss_84) of Floss Does Life have kindly agreed to step in and take up the reins to keep this meme alive.

F4TFriday #97 - Puting Others First

 

Humans tend to be programmed to focus on their own needs. This isn't necessarily a selfish thing, we need to look after ourselves simply to survive, and we have done a number of prompts in the past about self-care and looking after ourselves.

It is, however, part of our make-up to look after and attend to the needs of those that we care for and who care for us, whether this be in some form of D/s dynamic, or simply as a result of sharing our lives with other people, be they friends, family or partners.

This week's questions are, as always, open to interpretation and may (or may not) be sex related, but what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #92 - Where Do You Go To?

 

As Peter Sarstedt famously sang:

"Where do you go to my lovely, when you're alone in your bed?

Tell me the thoughts that surround you,I want to look inside your head"

Alone time, or making time for yourself is an important, if often overlooked part of looking after ourselves. Sometimes we need space for ourselves, simply to be ourselves.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How often do you make time for yourself?

What do you do to gain the most benefit from your "you time"?

How do you balance the time you devote to yourself and to others? Which do you prioritise? Why?

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F4TFriday #90 - Gone Awry

 

Sex, when everything "works" is fantastic. Sadly however, even when the mind is willing, our bodies can let us down. Stress, tiredness, illness, having the cat jump on the bed as you are approaching climax (or is that one just me?) can all sometimes cause things to go awry and for the best and naughtiest of intentions to fall short of where we wanted them to take us.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where either you, or your partner just weren't able to "follow through" with the mood? Is it something that happens regularly

How did you feel at the time?

How do you manage these situations? Are you ever able to get back "in the swing"? If so how?

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F4TFriday #83 - Obsessive Madness

 

I am one of those people who believes that loving someone and being in love with someone are different things. The two things may be related; you may love and be in love with someone at the same time. On the other hand, they could be two distinct and discrete emotional states; the word "love" being a handy and simple linguistic shortcut for emotional states that are anything but simple to define.

So, guess what?  This week, that's exactly what we want you to try and do, by asking:

What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

How does these differences colour and effect the way you interact with that person?

Where sex is involved, does the emotional layer affect its quality?

Where do lust and desire fit into this?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to May More, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

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F4TFriday #78 - Bits & Bobs

As the year draws ever closer to a close and the holidays approach, this time of year is often one of reflection as well as celebration.

Keeping the reflective theme in mind, what we want to know this week is:

When do you feel happiest in your skin?

How do you maintain balance in your life? Is there anything you need to change?

What has been a particularly challenging situation that you have faced? How did you handle it? What did you learn from it?

What does it mean to live authentically?

What are the things that inspire you and how do they work for you?

If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of submissy (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #75 - Being Thankful

 

It's not a holiday we celebrate in the UK, but yesterday was Thanksgiving in the US.

As the year begins to draw to a close, and the holiday season looms ever closer, this is often a time for reflection.

So, this week, all we want to know is:

What are the things in your life that you are most thankful for?

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