F4Thought #139 - Dates and Dating

What are your thoughts on Dates & Dating?
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You are definitely a creative bunch, last week’s prompt of Time Slip brought out some great posts from you all. May has done the spotlight post for this week, but I’ll tell you a secret she chose my favourite too. This week’s prompt is Dates & Dating, so plenty of room for variety and I’m very excited to hear your thoughts on this topic. Before then though, the Spotlight for #138 …

Spotlight Post #138 by May More

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The posts we received for the Time Slip prompt were a joy to read. Even those that tackled difficult issues were well thought out and absorbed the reader from start to finish. When the meme closed I sat back and thought about each one. In my mind, I kept returning to one particular story. The Loop from Michael. The tale sparkled and lifted my spirits. I don't really want to say more than that or I'll give away the plot but here is a quote to whet your appetite and if I was you I would settle down with a cup of coffee and have read.

“We entered the shop which was filled to the brim with the dusty detritus of ages gone by. Items piled haphazardly on top of each other with no rhyme or reason and seemingly defying the laws of gravity and physics. It seemed that many of the items could not possibly be removed without sending every piece of delicately balance junk crashing to the floor and burying us alive.” Read More …

Prompt #139 - Dates and Dating

F4TFriday #87 - The Dating Game

 

Much of the internet these days, it seems, is devoted to helping people either get together, get it on or, on occasion, both. Whether it be "traditional" dating sites such a "match" or "eHarmony" or more sex orientated sites like "fabswingers" or "adult friendfinder", or apps like Tinder or Grindr, there are countless ways of connecting with people for the purposes of sex and/or relationships.

Of course, it wasn't always like this. Those of us of a certain age remember (fondly or otherwise) trying to chat people up in bars or clubs, or being introduced/set up by mutual friends and acquaintances. As someone who has used both the new-fangled and old fashioned approaches, I'm not entirely sure that either way is better, or less apprehensive making than the other, but I digress.

So, what we want to know this week is:

Are you currently dating? If so, what is you preferred method of arranging a date?

If you are in a relationship, how did you meet your current partner and how long did it take before you realised you were "a couple"?

Share an amusing dating anecdote, or recount an experience of a date that went either badly wrong, or incredibly well. Are you still in touch with that person?

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PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

 

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

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F4TFriday #49 - When Harry Met Sally

If you were expecting "THAT" clip, I'm sorry but you are going to be disappointed. No, instead we're are focusing on the assertion that men and woman cannot be friends because sooner or later one person whats to have sex with the other.

So, with that in mind, we are asking:

Do you agree with this assertion?

Have you ever had a friendship where one person did want to have sex with the other? Who was the "guilty" party, you or the other person. Was it reciprocated?

If you answered yes to the last part, did "it" happen?

"Yes" or "No" were there any consequences, god or bad? Did the friendship survive?

F4TFriday #43 - Foot In Mouth Disease

You're in a club/bar/other location.  You've spotted someone who has taken your fancy. Glances have been exchanged and their body language is an invitation to approach.  You walk towards them, trying to come up with a good opening line, and then...

Yes, we're talking chat ups.

Do you have a tried and tested chat-up line?

Have you ever used, or had a really corny line used on you?  Did it work?

Are you calm and confident, or are you like Jeff?

F4TFriday #42 - Dating By Numbers

So, you're on a date and it's going well; very well... The chemistry is there, the attraction is there. All that both of you really want to do at this point is take it somewhere private and move things up to the next level, as it were.

On the assumption that both of you are definitely up for getting down, what we want to know this week is:

Does it matter how many dates you have had up to this point?

If it was clear things were definitely heading in that direction, would it make any difference if this were a first or subsequent date?

What, if any, are your "rules" for dating and sex?