F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #86 - Touchy-Feely

 

Sex is, by its very nature, a highly sensual activity. Sight, sound, scent, and taste all add to and heighten the experience. Primarily though, sex is tactile. Whether you are on your own, or with a partner, touching, and being touched play a large part in igniting arousing and satisfying our sexual needs and desires.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you like to be touched?

How do you like to touch yourself?

Which parts/areas of you body do you most enjoy touching or having touched?

Which part of a partner's body do you most enjoy touching? Why is that?

Are there any parts of your body that you can't stand having touched?

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F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

 

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #77 - The Things We Do

 

When we talk about sex, the first thing that probably springs to most people's minds is the act of intercourse itself, or fucking as we here in our particular community often prefer to call it. There is, of course, more to sex than intercourse or fucking and, for some people, it may not even be the predominant sexual activity (if it is indulged in at all).

So this week, what we want to know is:

If intercourse (vaginal or anal) is not your main form of sexual activity, what do you do?

Is there a particular reason that intercourse is not your primary or predominant sexual activity?

For those people for whom intercourse is the predominant means of having sex, what other sexual activities do you frequently partake in?

Are there any activities that are definite no-go areas for you? Why is this? 

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet, author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #74 - Spicing It Up

 

Sex can be many things. It can be spontaneous, fun, serious, passionate, intense, angry, loving, comforting, lustful, or any combination of these things. Another thing it can become is routine and (whisper it) well, a little bit dull.

Even if you aren't into the full-scale BDSM or D/s scene, sometimes it's always good to add a bit of "slap and tickle" to your slap and tickle, just to add some novelty, spice things up and generally just inject some fun into the proceedings.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?

Have you ever used feathers during sex?

Have you ever used foodstuffs during sex? What did you use?

Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why/why not?

Do you like to be restrained during sex? Why/why not?

Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?

Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?

Is there anything else do you do to "spice things up"? 

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F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
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F4TFriday #60 - Abrupt Endings

As we alluded to back in Week 47, sex isn't always as perfect as it is depicted in the movies.

Picture the scene: everything has moved along nicely, you're both in the zone and are making all the moves, climax is approaching and you both know it's going to be big one; and then...

The phone rings, there's a knock at the door, the cat jumps up on the bed, or any one of a number of other things happen that bring things to an untimely conclusion.

This week what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where you you have had to stop while "in full flow"? 

What happened? 

How did your partner react?

Were you able to get things "back on track" and if so, how?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to May Moore, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing this week's question.

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F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

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F4TFriday #55 - Making Sense

Humans experience the world around them through their senses. Touch, taste, sight, sound and scent all combine to a greater or lesser degree to build up a picture of our surroundings.

Many of us have a dominant sense; some of us are visual, some are auditory, whereas others are tactile. Some of us have lost or have a restricted use of one or more senses, which impacts how we perceive and determine our world.

Sex, by its very nature, is a very sensual and sensory experience. So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you employ your senses to enhance your enjoyment of sex?

Which of your senses have the biggest impact on your enjoyment?

What effect does sensory deprivation (e.g. blindfolds, restraint) have on you?

If you have a sensory impairment or have lost the use of a sense, how has this affected you (if at all) sexually?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to SubmissiveJen for providing this week's question.

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F4TFriday #54 - Performing Arts

Generally speaking, sex, whether it be on your own or with a partner is something that is done in private; where the only people who know what is going on are the participants. That isn't always the case however; some of us have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in us.

So, this week we are interested in the idea of sex/masturbation as a performance, and what we want to know is, if either in person, or by some form of video chat (e.g. Skype):

Have you ever let your partner watch you masturbate? Has your partner ever let you watch them?

Have you ever let your partner watch you have sex with someone else? Has your partner ever  watched you have sex with someone else?

Have you ever deliberately let someone other than you partner watch you have sex?

Not counting film/TV, have you watched another person (other than your partner) masturbate or have sex? Did they know they were being watched?

 
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F4TFriday #53 - A Few Of Our Favourite Things

It is sometime said that being legally old enough to have sex and alcohol are the only compensations for having to endure "adult life". Now, I will admit to enjoying a glass or two of my favourite poison at the weekend, but because this blog concentrates more on the sex side of things, this week's poser goes something like this:

What are your favourite sexual things to do? 

What positions do you prefer and why?

Do you have a favourite place for having sex?

Is there something you think you would enjoy but haven't tried yet?

 
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F4TF #16 - Kinky Fuckery

Apologies for using a term from 'that book', but this week we are asking you to share your deepest desires with us:

Do you have any fetishes?

Will you tell us about them; what they are, why you enjoy them, maybe how you developed them?

Are you ashamed or embarrassed by them or are you happy to be open about them? 

Do you think they are unusual?