F4TFriday #88 - In Your Dreams

 

Sex dreams: many of us have had them at one time or another. Sometimes they involve a partner, sometimes a celebrity crush, sometimes a complete stranger and sometimes a "real-life" crush. Usually, all very, well... perhaps innocent isn't quite the word, but harmless fun. Sometimes, the object of our semi-somnolent desire can be extremely inappropriate, a colleague, an authority figure, a best friend or someone that the idea of just gives you shivers (and not the good kind).

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How regularly, if at all, does sex occur in your dreams?

Is there a recurring partner in these dreams?

Who is the most inappropriate person to have featured in a sex dream?

If you have had a sex dream about a friend, did you tell them? How did they react?

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F4TFriday #83 - Obsessive Madness

 

I am one of those people who believes that loving someone and being in love with someone are different things. The two things may be related; you may love and be in love with someone at the same time. On the other hand, they could be two distinct and discrete emotional states; the word "love" being a handy and simple linguistic shortcut for emotional states that are anything but simple to define.

So, guess what?  This week, that's exactly what we want you to try and do, by asking:

What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

How does these differences colour and effect the way you interact with that person?

Where sex is involved, does the emotional layer affect its quality?

Where do lust and desire fit into this?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to May More, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

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F4TFriday #65 - If I Ruled The World...

 

Rules, they are everywhere. There isn't an aspect of our lives that isn't governed by them. Every way we turn, everywhere we go, there is someone telling us what we can and cannot do and how we are expected to behave, and what the consequences of failing to keep to those rules may be.

So, this week we are asking:

What is your attitude to rules? Do you follow them completely? Do you bend them? Are they there to be broken?

Do you have any self-imposed rules that you live your life by? Do you ever break these?

Within your relationship, are there rules you abide by? Who sets these? Have you ever broken them and, if so, was it deliberate? What are the consequences of rule breaking in this context?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Julie, author of Masters Pleasing Bitch (aka @MPBjulie) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #59 - It's A Secret

Many people on Twitter use anonymous, or pseudonymous accounts. Within the sex-blogging community, many of us prefer to keep our actual identities "hidden" from the wider world.

So, this week we are exploring the topic online anonymity/pseudonymity by asking:

How "real" is your online persona?

Do you use a pseudonym, your real identity or both?

Where you use a pseudonym how open about your actual identity are you?

Is your anonymous/pseudonymous online self a secret or more a form of protective "camouflage"?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing this week's question.

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F4TFriday #58 - If I Had A Photograph...

A number of us in this community take part in the #SinfulSunday or FebPhotoFest memes run by Molly Moore, while others share photos via Boobday by Hyacinth Jones.

Even if you don't participate in memes or share photos online, many people take naughty/intimate photos to share with a partner and others take them simply for their own enjoyment.

So, this week, we are asking:

If you take risqué photographs, what is it that you enjoy most? The creativity, the composition, the feedback you get from those who see them?

If you participate in any of the memes above, what made you decide to take part? How did you feel the first time you linked a post for others to see?

How comfortable are you sharing semi-nude/nude/sexually explicit photos of yourself, either online or via a "sext"?

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F4TFriday #54 - Performing Arts

Generally speaking, sex, whether it be on your own or with a partner is something that is done in private; where the only people who know what is going on are the participants. That isn't always the case however; some of us have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in us.

So, this week we are interested in the idea of sex/masturbation as a performance, and what we want to know is, if either in person, or by some form of video chat (e.g. Skype):

Have you ever let your partner watch you masturbate? Has your partner ever let you watch them?

Have you ever let your partner watch you have sex with someone else? Has your partner ever  watched you have sex with someone else?

Have you ever deliberately let someone other than you partner watch you have sex?

Not counting film/TV, have you watched another person (other than your partner) masturbate or have sex? Did they know they were being watched?

 
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F4TFriday #53 - A Few Of Our Favourite Things

It is sometime said that being legally old enough to have sex and alcohol are the only compensations for having to endure "adult life". Now, I will admit to enjoying a glass or two of my favourite poison at the weekend, but because this blog concentrates more on the sex side of things, this week's poser goes something like this:

What are your favourite sexual things to do? 

What positions do you prefer and why?

Do you have a favourite place for having sex?

Is there something you think you would enjoy but haven't tried yet?

 
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F4TFriday #45 - That's So Inappropriate...

Sometimes we can't help ourselves. The urge, the desire, the need are simply too much to resist. Whether it's an intimate family celebration, at a gathering of friends, at a concert or the theatre, or maybe just in the queue for the taxi home after a night out; sometimes we just can't wait to get home to get down.

So, the question we are asking this week is:

Where is the most inappropriate place that you have engaged in any kind of sexual activity?

What did you do/how far did you go?

Did you get caught/interrupted?

Is there any location/situation that is on your fantasy "to-do" list?

F4TFriday #38 - On The Hook

The "hook-up" — A brief uncommitted sexual encounter between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other. Maybe it was a one-night stand, a weekend fling, or perhaps it's more of a "fuck buddy/friends with benefits" arrangements.

The reasons behind, and the consequences  of "hook-ups" can be many and varied.  With that in mind, this week we are asking:

Have you ever "hooked up" with someone just for sex?

How did you arrange it?

How did it make you feel?

Were there any consequences, good or bad, that arose from it?

F4TFriday #34 - Out Of Kilter

A healthy sex life is seen to be an important part of a strong and healthy relationship. Sometimes though, for any number of reasons, the level of sexual desire can become unbalanced. So, to day we are asking:

How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match that of your partner?

F4TF #31 - Free Pass

This question is, I guess, orientated towards those readers who are in a relationship.

If your partner was to offer you a "free pass", where you could do anything with anyone, without there being any recriminations, would you take advantage of it? 

If so, how? 

Have you ever been given such a "pass" and did you use it?

F4TF #24 - Location, Location, Location

Back in Week 11 of F4TF we asked you about the riskiest or most adventurous place you have ever had sex and you  did not disappoint us.

This week we are asking:

Is there a location that you have never had sex in/at but you would love to try it?

A car? cinema? outdoors? the beach? a church?

Do you think it will ever happen?

What has stopped you doing it so far?

F4TF #11 - Risky Business

Sometimes, a hint of danger or an element of risk can spice up a sexual encounter. So this week we are asking:

Where is the riskiest/most adventurous place that you have had sex?

Did you get caught?

(Thanks to K.C. Cave for the idea!)