F4TFriday #96 - Who Would You Do?

 

Many of us have our "Fantasy Fuck List" - those people, be they celebrities, colleagues, friends, or possibly just the barista who serves you your coffee in the morning, that for one reason or another, we fantasise about doing naughty things with or to.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you have such a list? Who is on it?

Have you ever had sex with someone famous, be it a local celebrity or a major star? How did it come to happen?

F4TFriday #87 - The Dating Game

 

Much of the internet these days, it seems, is devoted to helping people either get together, get it on or, on occasion, both. Whether it be "traditional" dating sites such a "match" or "eHarmony" or more sex orientated sites like "fabswingers" or "adult friendfinder", or apps like Tinder or Grindr, there are countless ways of connecting with people for the purposes of sex and/or relationships.

Of course, it wasn't always like this. Those of us of a certain age remember (fondly or otherwise) trying to chat people up in bars or clubs, or being introduced/set up by mutual friends and acquaintances. As someone who has used both the new-fangled and old fashioned approaches, I'm not entirely sure that either way is better, or less apprehensive making than the other, but I digress.

So, what we want to know this week is:

Are you currently dating? If so, what is you preferred method of arranging a date?

If you are in a relationship, how did you meet your current partner and how long did it take before you realised you were "a couple"?

Share an amusing dating anecdote, or recount an experience of a date that went either badly wrong, or incredibly well. Are you still in touch with that person?

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F4TFriday #85 - Getting Off

 

Orgasms, it is said, come in one person sizes. We all, if we're lucky enough to have them, experience them in our own way. The only orgasms we ever truly experience are our own as they are almost entirely internal. What we feel is unique to us, our mood, the stimulation we're experiencing and the circumstances under which they are being experienced.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.

What is your favourite way to reach/be brought to a climax?

What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm? How long does it normally take you?

How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm? Typically, how often do you manage to get off?

Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally comes first?

Have you ever faked an orgasm? What were the reasons/circumstances that led you to fake it?

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F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

 

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

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F4TFriday #77 - The Things We Do

 

When we talk about sex, the first thing that probably springs to most people's minds is the act of intercourse itself, or fucking as we here in our particular community often prefer to call it. There is, of course, more to sex than intercourse or fucking and, for some people, it may not even be the predominant sexual activity (if it is indulged in at all).

So this week, what we want to know is:

If intercourse (vaginal or anal) is not your main form of sexual activity, what do you do?

Is there a particular reason that intercourse is not your primary or predominant sexual activity?

For those people for whom intercourse is the predominant means of having sex, what other sexual activities do you frequently partake in?

Are there any activities that are definite no-go areas for you? Why is this? 

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet, author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #73 - Keeping It Casual

 

Whether or not we are currently in a committed relationship, be it mono or poly, many of us have had casual encounters. They may have been before we had our first committed relationship, after or last one, when we were between relationships or, possibly, even while were in one (with or without the knowledge of our partner(s)).

The point is, we have urges, and sometimes the only avenue available to attend to such is through some casual/non-committed fun.

So, this week, we are asking:

Have you ever initiated/accepted a hook-up or booty-call? What were the circumstances behind it?

Have you ever had a one night stand? Was it a good or bad experience? What made it so?

Have you ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?

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F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
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F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

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F4TFriday #50 - What I Know Now

Firstly, before I go any further, some of you may have noticed that 50 in the post header. Yes, that's right, this is the 50^th "Food For Thought Friday" prompt. How on earth did that even happen?

I'd really like to thank everyone who has supported this meme since it started, especially those of you who have joined in since our relaunch; it really does mean so much. I would never have believed that when this started out, it would have lasted this long and had such wonderful support.

Which brings us by means of a rather unsubtle segue to this weeks topic. As we get older, while we may not necessarily become any wiser, we do accumulate more knowledge than we did 10, 20, or 30 years ago (apologies to anyone not actually old enough to have 30 years of memories).

So, this week, what we'd really love to know is:

What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

What one thing might shock that younger you?

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia? 

F4TFriday #49 - When Harry Met Sally

If you were expecting "THAT" clip, I'm sorry but you are going to be disappointed. No, instead we're are focusing on the assertion that men and woman cannot be friends because sooner or later one person whats to have sex with the other.

So, with that in mind, we are asking:

Do you agree with this assertion?

Have you ever had a friendship where one person did want to have sex with the other? Who was the "guilty" party, you or the other person. Was it reciprocated?

If you answered yes to the last part, did "it" happen?

"Yes" or "No" were there any consequences, god or bad? Did the friendship survive?

F4TFriday #47 - Epic Fails

The trouble with sex on the television is that it's far too easy to fall off and hurt yourself...  Actually, while that may have been true in the days of bulky CRT sets, today's flat-screen devices have probably eliminated that risk.

Jokes aside though, sex as depicted on film and television is almost always perfect: zip fastenings never get stuck, no one ever gets their hair caught in their partner's watch strap, people never accidentally knee or elbow the other person when they change position and (unless it's porn), there's never any mess.

Real sex is, of course, often far from perfect, so this week we are asking:

What has been your most embarrassing sex "fail"?

How did it happen?

Were you able to laugh it off and move on, or did it bring things to an untimely conclusion?

F4TFriday #43 - Foot In Mouth Disease

You're in a club/bar/other location.  You've spotted someone who has taken your fancy. Glances have been exchanged and their body language is an invitation to approach.  You walk towards them, trying to come up with a good opening line, and then...

Yes, we're talking chat ups.

Do you have a tried and tested chat-up line?

Have you ever used, or had a really corny line used on you?  Did it work?

Are you calm and confident, or are you like Jeff?

F4TFriday #42 - Dating By Numbers

So, you're on a date and it's going well; very well... The chemistry is there, the attraction is there. All that both of you really want to do at this point is take it somewhere private and move things up to the next level, as it were.

On the assumption that both of you are definitely up for getting down, what we want to know this week is:

Does it matter how many dates you have had up to this point?

If it was clear things were definitely heading in that direction, would it make any difference if this were a first or subsequent date?

What, if any, are your "rules" for dating and sex?

F4TFriday #38 - On The Hook

The "hook-up" — A brief uncommitted sexual encounter between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other. Maybe it was a one-night stand, a weekend fling, or perhaps it's more of a "fuck buddy/friends with benefits" arrangements.

The reasons behind, and the consequences  of "hook-ups" can be many and varied.  With that in mind, this week we are asking:

Have you ever "hooked up" with someone just for sex?

How did you arrange it?

How did it make you feel?

Were there any consequences, good or bad, that arose from it?

F4TF #32 - Spreading It Around

A couple of weeks ago, we asked for your views on monogamy. This week we're swinging the other way (as it were) entirely, and considering the subject of promiscuity.

Do you believe one gender is more naturally promiscuous than the other? Why do you think this is?

F4TF #4 - The Ties That Bind

So, for this week"Food For Thought Friday", we are turning our attention to the subject of Fuck Buddies/Friends with Benefits.

Is it possible to have a long-term "no-strings" sexual relationship?