F4Thought #118 - Safe Words

#F4Thought #118 ~ Safe Words 

I have loved all your kissing posts. Some had me longing for that kiss that makes butterflies flutter in your stomach. Often when you have just met someone. But it was wonderful to read so many of you still experience that with a long-term partner. 

Spotlight Post #117

So choosing just one of the posts was difficult. But I found I couldn't quite forget what Annabel wrote

#F4Thought #117 Spotlight Post

about her early days with Raven. A part of me is envious of people who have stuck with their first love/first kiss person. This post made me feel all of that – and it is super hot too.

“The kiss is all consuming. I am no longer aware of anything outside of our embrace. I can no longer hear his siblings bantering in the other room. I am intensely focused on the feelings I am experiencing. I find myself in familiar territory of yearning for something but not really knowing what it is. So as we are prone to doing, we start exploring each other to see what offers us relief or heightens the sensation.”    READ MORE …

Prompt #118 ~ Safe Words OR Words that make you feel Safe...

F4TFriday #96 - Who Would You Do?

 

Many of us have our "Fantasy Fuck List" - those people, be they celebrities, colleagues, friends, or possibly just the barista who serves you your coffee in the morning, that for one reason or another, we fantasise about doing naughty things with or to.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you have such a list? Who is on it?

Have you ever had sex with someone famous, be it a local celebrity or a major star? How did it come to happen?

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #87 - The Dating Game

 

Much of the internet these days, it seems, is devoted to helping people either get together, get it on or, on occasion, both. Whether it be "traditional" dating sites such a "match" or "eHarmony" or more sex orientated sites like "fabswingers" or "adult friendfinder", or apps like Tinder or Grindr, there are countless ways of connecting with people for the purposes of sex and/or relationships.

Of course, it wasn't always like this. Those of us of a certain age remember (fondly or otherwise) trying to chat people up in bars or clubs, or being introduced/set up by mutual friends and acquaintances. As someone who has used both the new-fangled and old fashioned approaches, I'm not entirely sure that either way is better, or less apprehensive making than the other, but I digress.

So, what we want to know this week is:

Are you currently dating? If so, what is you preferred method of arranging a date?

If you are in a relationship, how did you meet your current partner and how long did it take before you realised you were "a couple"?

Share an amusing dating anecdote, or recount an experience of a date that went either badly wrong, or incredibly well. Are you still in touch with that person?

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F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

 

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #73 - Keeping It Casual

 

Whether or not we are currently in a committed relationship, be it mono or poly, many of us have had casual encounters. They may have been before we had our first committed relationship, after or last one, when we were between relationships or, possibly, even while were in one (with or without the knowledge of our partner(s)).

The point is, we have urges, and sometimes the only avenue available to attend to such is through some casual/non-committed fun.

So, this week, we are asking:

Have you ever initiated/accepted a hook-up or booty-call? What were the circumstances behind it?

Have you ever had a one night stand? Was it a good or bad experience? What made it so?

Have you ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #71 - Just A Quickie

 

I'll confess, I've been somewhat disorganised this week. Things have been stupidly busy and the days have just flown by. As such I was just a little horrified when I realised I hadn't got a question lined up and I needed to come up with something pretty damned quick.

It's a tenuous link, I'll admit, but sometimes a quick one is all we have time for. There's an overwhelming sense of urgency, and just about enough time to play with if you both want it badly enough, don't stand on ceremony, and just get on and do it.

So, with that in mind, what we want to know is:

What are your views on quickies?

When was the last time you had one, what were the circumstances behind it?

Have you got any particular favourite positions/activities that you employ when the need is great but time is not on your side?

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F4TFriday #69 - Sixty Nine

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F4TFriday #68 - Special Occasions

 

Today is my birthday. To mark the fact that I have been on the planet for 48 years, I'm heading off to spend a well earned week lying on a beach and, the chances are, all I will be wearing for much of the next seven days is sunscreen (and possibly a smile).

Birthdays are, of course, potentially only one reason to celebrate. Others can include weddings, the festive/holiday season, a promotion at work, a relationship anniversary, or possibly just the fact it's the weekend.

This week, what we want to know is:

Do you have any "rituals" with which you celebrate/mark special occasions?

What was the last treat (surprise or otherwise) that you gave a partner or that a partner gave to you?

What lengths have you gone to to make a particular occasion "special"?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #62 - Education, Education, Education...

It's probably fair to say that the quality of sex education varies considerably. If I were being cynical, based on my own experience far too many years ago, I would say it ranges from poor all the way down to utterly inadequate. In my day it was pretty much limited to "Man puts penis inside woman's vagina. Man's sperm fertilises woman's egg. That's where babies come from."

Now, depending on where you live, and your age, your experience may be broadly similar to, or completely different from mine. So, this week, what we want to know is:

What elements do you believe a comprehensive sex education programme should cover and why?

How should the responsibility for teaching kids about sex be split between parents and schools?

What age do you believe we should start teaching children about sex?

If there was one thing that could have improved your own experience of sex education, what would it have been?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of my life as a submissive wife (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #51 - Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow?

Pubic hair, nature's dental-floss. Some of us let it grow wild and free, others tend to keep it under varying degrees of control, and some prefer to cast it all away and go smooth. How we style (or not) down below is a personal choice that we make for reasons of style, comfort, hygiene, or any of a range of factors.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you style your pubic hair? What were your reasons for choosing that style?

What are your preferences for a partner's styling?

Would you (or have you) ever change(d) your styling just to please a partner?

F4TFriday #50 - What I Know Now

Firstly, before I go any further, some of you may have noticed that 50 in the post header. Yes, that's right, this is the 50^th "Food For Thought Friday" prompt. How on earth did that even happen?

I'd really like to thank everyone who has supported this meme since it started, especially those of you who have joined in since our relaunch; it really does mean so much. I would never have believed that when this started out, it would have lasted this long and had such wonderful support.

Which brings us by means of a rather unsubtle segue to this weeks topic. As we get older, while we may not necessarily become any wiser, we do accumulate more knowledge than we did 10, 20, or 30 years ago (apologies to anyone not actually old enough to have 30 years of memories).

So, this week, what we'd really love to know is:

What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

What one thing might shock that younger you?

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia? 

F4TFriday #49 - When Harry Met Sally

If you were expecting "THAT" clip, I'm sorry but you are going to be disappointed. No, instead we're are focusing on the assertion that men and woman cannot be friends because sooner or later one person whats to have sex with the other.

So, with that in mind, we are asking:

Do you agree with this assertion?

Have you ever had a friendship where one person did want to have sex with the other? Who was the "guilty" party, you or the other person. Was it reciprocated?

If you answered yes to the last part, did "it" happen?

"Yes" or "No" were there any consequences, god or bad? Did the friendship survive?

F4TFriday #47 - Epic Fails

The trouble with sex on the television is that it's far too easy to fall off and hurt yourself...  Actually, while that may have been true in the days of bulky CRT sets, today's flat-screen devices have probably eliminated that risk.

Jokes aside though, sex as depicted on film and television is almost always perfect: zip fastenings never get stuck, no one ever gets their hair caught in their partner's watch strap, people never accidentally knee or elbow the other person when they change position and (unless it's porn), there's never any mess.

Real sex is, of course, often far from perfect, so this week we are asking:

What has been your most embarrassing sex "fail"?

How did it happen?

Were you able to laugh it off and move on, or did it bring things to an untimely conclusion?

F4TFriday #43 - Foot In Mouth Disease

You're in a club/bar/other location.  You've spotted someone who has taken your fancy. Glances have been exchanged and their body language is an invitation to approach.  You walk towards them, trying to come up with a good opening line, and then...

Yes, we're talking chat ups.

Do you have a tried and tested chat-up line?

Have you ever used, or had a really corny line used on you?  Did it work?

Are you calm and confident, or are you like Jeff?

F4TFriday #40 - Under Wraps

Nudity is great. I am a lover of the human body in all its shapes, sizes, colours and varieties. Sometimes, however, it's good to leave a little something to the imagination.

So this week, we want to know:

What do you wear when you want to feel sexy/desirable?

What is the sexiest thing a member of the opposite sex can wear?

What, if anything, is that one item of clothing/footwear that really does it for you?

F4TFriday #38 - On The Hook

The "hook-up" — A brief uncommitted sexual encounter between individuals who are not romantic partners or dating each other. Maybe it was a one-night stand, a weekend fling, or perhaps it's more of a "fuck buddy/friends with benefits" arrangements.

The reasons behind, and the consequences  of "hook-ups" can be many and varied.  With that in mind, this week we are asking:

Have you ever "hooked up" with someone just for sex?

How did you arrange it?

How did it make you feel?

Were there any consequences, good or bad, that arose from it?

F4TFriday #37 - What's Love Got To Do With It?

Love and sex; for some the two are inextricably linked, for others they are two separate, although sometimes complimentary, things. Everyone, it seems, has their own view on how much of an overlap there is between the emotional and the physical.

So, this week we are asking:

How essential is love to you in a sexual relationship?

Does love make sex better in any way?

Where sex is more than just something casual (e.g. a one-night stand), is it possible to fully detach the emotional and physical sides of sex?

F4TFriday #36 - Je Ne Regrette Rien?

Edith Piaf had no regrets at all. Frank Sinatra on the other hand, had a few.  So, what about you?

Yes, this week we are asking about regrets. So, with that in mind:

What, if any, are your greatest regrets?

Is it something you wish you had or hadn't done?

If you could do it again, how would you do it differently this time?