F4TFriday #99 - Picture This

 

Most, if not all of us, have taken "sexy"/"naughty" photos of ourselves at one point or another. It may have been for your own personal collection, to send to a partner, or perhaps you posted it to a meme such as Sinful Sunday, February Photo Fest or Scavenger Hunt.

Some of us take them for the challenge (and risks) of taking such photos, some out of a sense of exhibitionism, some for the enjoyment of others and some people do it to help with their own self image/self esteem. Most of us, quite possibly do it for a combination of these reasons (or more) in varying proportions.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #98 - Spread A Little Love

 

The sex blogging community is, above all, a community. We discuss topics that people find difficult to be open about, we promote body/sex/self positivity, we share our experiences, our hopes and fears, and we do it in the knowledge that our fellow bloggers do not judge us.

Having said that, scratch the surface of any blogger hard enough and, underneath you will find a regular human being, who has their own particular tastes and likes.  Part of what makes this community so great is its diversity; the range and breadth of content from contributors is such that there is something out there for everyone to enjoy.

So, in the interests of sharing some love and support for the community of which we are part, we would like you to do something a little different:

F4TFriday #97 - Puting Others First

 

Humans tend to be programmed to focus on their own needs. This isn't necessarily a selfish thing, we need to look after ourselves simply to survive, and we have done a number of prompts in the past about self-care and looking after ourselves.

It is, however, part of our make-up to look after and attend to the needs of those that we care for and who care for us, whether this be in some form of D/s dynamic, or simply as a result of sharing our lives with other people, be they friends, family or partners.

This week's questions are, as always, open to interpretation and may (or may not) be sex related, but what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #96 - Who Would You Do?

 

Many of us have our "Fantasy Fuck List" - those people, be they celebrities, colleagues, friends, or possibly just the barista who serves you your coffee in the morning, that for one reason or another, we fantasise about doing naughty things with or to.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you have such a list? Who is on it?

Have you ever had sex with someone famous, be it a local celebrity or a major star? How did it come to happen?

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #93 - The Good, The Bad And The Indifferent

 

We all like to think that we're good at doing the things we do. Sex is no different; no one wants to think that they are bad at it. If we are being honest with ourselves, however, we will almost certainly admit that we are better at some things than we are at others.

Often, the things we are "best" at, are those things we enjoy doing most, and we are less good as those activities that we are less keen on.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

What would you consider are your particular sexual strengths?

Is there anything that you feel you could, or want to do better?

Have you ever been told you are particularly good at something?

Are there any activities that you are completely indifferent about, but do them anyway?

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F4TFriday #92 - Where Do You Go To?

 

As Peter Sarstedt famously sang:

"Where do you go to my lovely, when you're alone in your bed?

Tell me the thoughts that surround you,I want to look inside your head"

Alone time, or making time for yourself is an important, if often overlooked part of looking after ourselves. Sometimes we need space for ourselves, simply to be ourselves.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How often do you make time for yourself?

What do you do to gain the most benefit from your "you time"?

How do you balance the time you devote to yourself and to others? Which do you prioritise? Why?

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F4TFriday #91 - At A Loss

 

Usually, loss is seen as a negative. This is understandable as it generally means that we no longer have something of value, be it a possession, a relationship or sometimes even just a particular thought or emotion.

Sometimes, however, loss, or getting lost, can be a good thing. We stumble upon somewhere/something/someone new, it results in us making discoveries, it alters our view on things, and can take our lives in new and (possibly) exciting directions.

Whether the outcome is good, or bad, loss inevitable means change, so, this week, what we want to know is:

What was your most significant loss?

How did you deal with it?

How has that (or any other) loss affected your life?

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F4TFriday #90 - Gone Awry

 

Sex, when everything "works" is fantastic. Sadly however, even when the mind is willing, our bodies can let us down. Stress, tiredness, illness, having the cat jump on the bed as you are approaching climax (or is that one just me?) can all sometimes cause things to go awry and for the best and naughtiest of intentions to fall short of where we wanted them to take us.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where either you, or your partner just weren't able to "follow through" with the mood? Is it something that happens regularly

How did you feel at the time?

How do you manage these situations? Are you ever able to get back "in the swing"? If so how?

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F4TFriday #85 - Getting Off

 

Orgasms, it is said, come in one person sizes. We all, if we're lucky enough to have them, experience them in our own way. The only orgasms we ever truly experience are our own as they are almost entirely internal. What we feel is unique to us, our mood, the stimulation we're experiencing and the circumstances under which they are being experienced.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.

What is your favourite way to reach/be brought to a climax?

What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm? How long does it normally take you?

How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm? Typically, how often do you manage to get off?

Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally comes first?

Have you ever faked an orgasm? What were the reasons/circumstances that led you to fake it?

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F4TFriday #82 - Reveaing All

 

So, all of us, I would imagine, take our clothes off at some time and there can, obviously, be a host of non-sexual reasons for doing so: taking a shower, going to bed, a medical examination, etc. The chances are that, in doing so, we have undressed in the presence of others.

Sometimes, however, the intent is absolutely sexual; to provoke desire and elicit a lust-fueled response, or maybe just to tease, taunt and frustrate.

So, this week, it's all about stripping off, and we are asking:

Have you ever played any game, e.g strip poker, where removing clothes was a forfeit for losing? How far did you take it? Did you deliberately play to lose?

Have you ever danced naked in front of anyone? What prompted the experience?

Have you ever given a partner (or someone else) a private dance? Has someone ever done so for you?

Have or would you ever perform a lap dance/striptease for a complete stranger?

Would you consider, or have you ever, accepted payment to remove your clothes?

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F4TFriday #80 - Fresh Starts & Clean Slates

 

So, as the song said, "another year over, and a new one just begun..." We hope you had a wonderful festive/holiday season and now our attention turns to the coming year...

A new year is a new beginning; a time to put the past behind us and look to the future. So, this week we thought we'd ease everyone back in fairly gently, and keep things simple by asking:

What are your goals, dreams, ambitions for 2019?

What, if anything, do you plan to try and change about your life? Why?

Where do you see yourself in 12 months time?

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F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

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F4TFriday #78 - Bits & Bobs

As the year draws ever closer to a close and the holidays approach, this time of year is often one of reflection as well as celebration.

Keeping the reflective theme in mind, what we want to know this week is:

When do you feel happiest in your skin?

How do you maintain balance in your life? Is there anything you need to change?

What has been a particularly challenging situation that you have faced? How did you handle it? What did you learn from it?

What does it mean to live authentically?

What are the things that inspire you and how do they work for you?

If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of submissy (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #72 - Pick Me Ups

 

I've been going through one of my "not so great" spells recently. Sex blogging and mental health concerns do seem to go hand in hand. The wonderful Sassy Cat has a list where bloggers can share their experiences under the hashtag #SB4MH (Sex Bloggers for Mental Health).

Even if you are fortunate to not be one of the estimate one in four that experiences mental health conditions in your life time, the chances are you will have experienced times in your life that were less than happy. Everybody suffers from the occasional low mood and blue/black day.

So, with that in mind, this week we are asking:

What do you do to try and pick yourself up when you are down?

Have you got any tried and tested techniques to lift your spirits when things are dark and grim?

When all else fails, how do you look after you?

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We pledge our commitment to blog for our mental health. We will write about mental health topics not only for ourselves but for others. We do this to destigmatise mental illness and to promote mental health awareness & education. We are sex bloggers for mental health. #NotAlone #SexNotStigma

F4TFriday #70 - Brick Walls and Inspirations

 

A few weeks back, we asked you about how you got started in the blogging community. While starting a blog is a big step, keeping it going can, at times, seem a daunting task.

In the early days of your blogging career, you may be bursting with ideas that you want to explore and set down as you find your voice and style. Later, as you become more established, things may level off and you are comfortably able to keep your blog ticking over.

Sometimes, however, things get trickier; the ideas run out, the imagination fails, you hit a creative brick wall. It happens, as they say, to the best of us.

With that in mind, what we want to know this week is:

Where do the ideas for your content come from?

How do you get inspiration? Who or what inspires what you post?

How do you decide  what to share, and why?

Once again, I am indebted to the wonderful Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.
 
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F4TFriday #67 - In Your Own Space

 

Modern life can be hectic at times. Friends, family, work, other commitments all make demands on our time and pull us in different directions.  Sometimes it is difficult to find time to focus on ourselves and our own needs because we are spending so much time attending to the needs and wants of others.

With that in mind, what we want to know this week is:

What activities do you indulge in to take care of you?

How regularly do you make time for yourself?

Is your sex life part of your self-care regime and, if so, what part does it play and how?

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #66 - Starting Out

If you participate in this meme, the chances are that you have a blog. Within this community, some of us post photos, some of us write fiction/poetry, some of us share our thoughts and feelings on a range of topics. Quite frequently, many of us do a combination of all of these. In doing so, we become part of and contribute to a rich and diverse community who discuss topics that others may shun, frankly and freely; supporting our fellow bloggers without judging; accepting that another person's drives and desires may be entirely different from our own.

Taking the plunge and starting a blog can, however, be a scary thing; not least because the topics we discuss are frequently those that others consider "taboo". Bearing our soul is seldom easy, and by nature of the topics we write about, the things about ourselves that we share are some of the most intimate aspects of our lives and run deep to the heart of who we are.

It will soon be that time of year when Molly and Kinkly start asking for nominations for their Top 100 blogs, and many other bloggers start producing their own lists of their favourites. This week, however, as a means of celebrating this wonderful community of ours, we want you to think about your own work, and so we are asking:

How did you first become aware of the blogging community?

What made you decide to take the plunge and join in?

How did you decide on the type of content you would share?

Have you achieved the goals you wanted when you started blogging and have these changed over time?

What have been the most positive aspects of being a blogger?

Have there been any negative aspects of being a blogger?

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F4TFriday #63 - Do It Yourself

Having sex, according to Woody Allen, is like bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand. Actually, even if you do have a good partner, sometimes nothing quite beats a little bit of "alone time". After all, can anyone really know how we like to be touched and aroused better than we do ourselves?

So, this week we are taking things into our own hands and asking:

How often to you indulge yourself? How do you do it? Fingers? Toys? A combination?

Do you have any particular tricks or techniques that work best for you?

Why do you do it? Are there any particular scenarios or circumstances that mean you are more likely to indulge yourself?

Is it a solitary experience or, if you have a partner, do you let them watch? If so, what do you like about being observed?

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F4TFriday #62 - Education, Education, Education...

It's probably fair to say that the quality of sex education varies considerably. If I were being cynical, based on my own experience far too many years ago, I would say it ranges from poor all the way down to utterly inadequate. In my day it was pretty much limited to "Man puts penis inside woman's vagina. Man's sperm fertilises woman's egg. That's where babies come from."

Now, depending on where you live, and your age, your experience may be broadly similar to, or completely different from mine. So, this week, what we want to know is:

What elements do you believe a comprehensive sex education programme should cover and why?

How should the responsibility for teaching kids about sex be split between parents and schools?

What age do you believe we should start teaching children about sex?

If there was one thing that could have improved your own experience of sex education, what would it have been?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of my life as a submissive wife (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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