F4TFriday - 2018 In Review

As we said last week, there's no question this week, but we're keeping last week's link up open so you can still add to it with details of your festive frolics and seasonal shenanigans if you want to.

First of all, we would just like to say a huge

THANK YOU!
to the 37 bloggers who have contributed a staggering 236 posts in response to the 47 prompts that we have run this year. Your contributions have been fantastic and we simply couldn't do this without your support.

Of those 37 bloggers, 28 of you joined in for the first time this year; with the remaining 9 bloggers rejoining us after our period of hiatus. I am sure everyone has enjoyed reading each other's contributions this year and we are looking forward to seeing what everyone dishes up for us in the year ahead.

Our top 10 contributors accounted for an astonishing 164 posts (a very apt 69% of the total...), so we would offer extra special thanks to the following bloggers for going above and beyond:

• Kilted Wookie - @Kilted_Wookie
• Marie Rebelle - @RebelsNotes
• Moist Musings - @MoistMusings
• dommewithdogs
• submissy - @5ubmissy
• Julie (Master's Pleasing Bitch) - @MPBjulie
• Witty - @PuppetPanpan96
• Miss Scarlet - MissScarletUK
• kisungura - @kisungura
• Wriggly Kitty - @wriggly_kitty

Like many in the blogging community, we were shocked and deeply saddened by the tragic loss of M of Cammies On The Floor earlier this year. M was a long time supporter of this site, a fantastic blogger and an all round wonderful human being and she will be greatly missed. A number of bloggers wrote tributes to her, and if you wish to do so, you can read them here. That particular link up is still open, so if you would like to add your own tribute, please feel free to do so.

So, whether you are a contributor, a reader or if you have suggested a question, all that remains if for us to say thank you yet again for your support, and to wish you health, happiness and health in the coming new year and beyond.

F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #78 - Bits & Bobs

As the year draws ever closer to a close and the holidays approach, this time of year is often one of reflection as well as celebration.

Keeping the reflective theme in mind, what we want to know this week is:

When do you feel happiest in your skin?

How do you maintain balance in your life? Is there anything you need to change?

What has been a particularly challenging situation that you have faced? How did you handle it? What did you learn from it?

What does it mean to live authentically?

What are the things that inspire you and how do they work for you?

If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of submissy (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #77 - The Things We Do

 

When we talk about sex, the first thing that probably springs to most people's minds is the act of intercourse itself, or fucking as we here in our particular community often prefer to call it. There is, of course, more to sex than intercourse or fucking and, for some people, it may not even be the predominant sexual activity (if it is indulged in at all).

So this week, what we want to know is:

If intercourse (vaginal or anal) is not your main form of sexual activity, what do you do?

Is there a particular reason that intercourse is not your primary or predominant sexual activity?

For those people for whom intercourse is the predominant means of having sex, what other sexual activities do you frequently partake in?

Are there any activities that are definite no-go areas for you? Why is this? 

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet, author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #76 - Dressed To Impress

Fashions may come and go, but our own individual style tends to same. Whether your look is formal, smart, casual, grungy, or just "unique", we all tend to have our own preferences as to what we wear when we're at work,  out and about or just slobbing around at home.

This week, we are interested in people's preferences regarding every day clothing. With this in mind, what we want to know is:

Are there specific things you tend to always wear, e.g. suits or denims? Why is this?

Are there things that you always wear under your clothes, e.g. silk, cotton, boxer-shorts or matching lingerie? Again, is there a reason for your preference?

What items of clothing do you like to see members of the opposite sex wear?

Is there anything you simply wouldn't be seen dead in? Why?

Once again, I am indebted to the wonderful long-term freid of the site, Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #75 - Being Thankful

 

It's not a holiday we celebrate in the UK, but yesterday was Thanksgiving in the US.

As the year begins to draw to a close, and the holiday season looms ever closer, this is often a time for reflection.

So, this week, all we want to know is:

What are the things in your life that you are most thankful for?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter

F4TFriday #74 - Spicing It Up

 

Sex can be many things. It can be spontaneous, fun, serious, passionate, intense, angry, loving, comforting, lustful, or any combination of these things. Another thing it can become is routine and (whisper it) well, a little bit dull.

Even if you aren't into the full-scale BDSM or D/s scene, sometimes it's always good to add a bit of "slap and tickle" to your slap and tickle, just to add some novelty, spice things up and generally just inject some fun into the proceedings.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you like being tickled during sex? Where?

Have you ever used feathers during sex?

Have you ever used foodstuffs during sex? What did you use?

Do you like to be blindfolded during sex? Why/why not?

Do you like to be restrained during sex? Why/why not?

Have you ever used cold or heat as part of your sex play? What provided the cold or heat?

Do you enjoy being spanked, giving spankings, or both?

Is there anything else do you do to "spice things up"? 

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #73 - Keeping It Casual

 

Whether or not we are currently in a committed relationship, be it mono or poly, many of us have had casual encounters. They may have been before we had our first committed relationship, after or last one, when we were between relationships or, possibly, even while were in one (with or without the knowledge of our partner(s)).

The point is, we have urges, and sometimes the only avenue available to attend to such is through some casual/non-committed fun.

So, this week, we are asking:

Have you ever initiated/accepted a hook-up or booty-call? What were the circumstances behind it?

Have you ever had a one night stand? Was it a good or bad experience? What made it so?

Have you ever had a “friend with benefits” relationship? How long did it last? Are you still friends or acquaintances with that person? Are you still having sex with that friend?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #72 - Pick Me Ups

 

I've been going through one of my "not so great" spells recently. Sex blogging and mental health concerns do seem to go hand in hand. The wonderful Sassy Cat has a list where bloggers can share their experiences under the hashtag #SB4MH (Sex Bloggers for Mental Health).

Even if you are fortunate to not be one of the estimate one in four that experiences mental health conditions in your life time, the chances are you will have experienced times in your life that were less than happy. Everybody suffers from the occasional low mood and blue/black day.

So, with that in mind, this week we are asking:

What do you do to try and pick yourself up when you are down?

Have you got any tried and tested techniques to lift your spirits when things are dark and grim?

When all else fails, how do you look after you?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

#SB4MH
We pledge our commitment to blog for our mental health. We will write about mental health topics not only for ourselves but for others. We do this to destigmatise mental illness and to promote mental health awareness & education. We are sex bloggers for mental health. #NotAlone #SexNotStigma

F4TFriday #71 - Just A Quickie

 

I'll confess, I've been somewhat disorganised this week. Things have been stupidly busy and the days have just flown by. As such I was just a little horrified when I realised I hadn't got a question lined up and I needed to come up with something pretty damned quick.

It's a tenuous link, I'll admit, but sometimes a quick one is all we have time for. There's an overwhelming sense of urgency, and just about enough time to play with if you both want it badly enough, don't stand on ceremony, and just get on and do it.

So, with that in mind, what we want to know is:

What are your views on quickies?

When was the last time you had one, what were the circumstances behind it?

Have you got any particular favourite positions/activities that you employ when the need is great but time is not on your side?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #70 - Brick Walls and Inspirations

 

A few weeks back, we asked you about how you got started in the blogging community. While starting a blog is a big step, keeping it going can, at times, seem a daunting task.

In the early days of your blogging career, you may be bursting with ideas that you want to explore and set down as you find your voice and style. Later, as you become more established, things may level off and you are comfortably able to keep your blog ticking over.

Sometimes, however, things get trickier; the ideas run out, the imagination fails, you hit a creative brick wall. It happens, as they say, to the best of us.

With that in mind, what we want to know this week is:

Where do the ideas for your content come from?

How do you get inspiration? Who or what inspires what you post?

How do you decide  what to share, and why?

Once again, I am indebted to the wonderful Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #69 - Sixty Nine

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F4TFriday #68 - Special Occasions

 

Today is my birthday. To mark the fact that I have been on the planet for 48 years, I'm heading off to spend a well earned week lying on a beach and, the chances are, all I will be wearing for much of the next seven days is sunscreen (and possibly a smile).

Birthdays are, of course, potentially only one reason to celebrate. Others can include weddings, the festive/holiday season, a promotion at work, a relationship anniversary, or possibly just the fact it's the weekend.

This week, what we want to know is:

Do you have any "rituals" with which you celebrate/mark special occasions?

What was the last treat (surprise or otherwise) that you gave a partner or that a partner gave to you?

What lengths have you gone to to make a particular occasion "special"?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #67 - In Your Own Space

 

Modern life can be hectic at times. Friends, family, work, other commitments all make demands on our time and pull us in different directions.  Sometimes it is difficult to find time to focus on ourselves and our own needs because we are spending so much time attending to the needs and wants of others.

With that in mind, what we want to know this week is:

What activities do you indulge in to take care of you?

How regularly do you make time for yourself?

Is your sex life part of your self-care regime and, if so, what part does it play and how?

A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #66 - Starting Out

If you participate in this meme, the chances are that you have a blog. Within this community, some of us post photos, some of us write fiction/poetry, some of us share our thoughts and feelings on a range of topics. Quite frequently, many of us do a combination of all of these. In doing so, we become part of and contribute to a rich and diverse community who discuss topics that others may shun, frankly and freely; supporting our fellow bloggers without judging; accepting that another person's drives and desires may be entirely different from our own.

Taking the plunge and starting a blog can, however, be a scary thing; not least because the topics we discuss are frequently those that others consider "taboo". Bearing our soul is seldom easy, and by nature of the topics we write about, the things about ourselves that we share are some of the most intimate aspects of our lives and run deep to the heart of who we are.

It will soon be that time of year when Molly and Kinkly start asking for nominations for their Top 100 blogs, and many other bloggers start producing their own lists of their favourites. This week, however, as a means of celebrating this wonderful community of ours, we want you to think about your own work, and so we are asking:

How did you first become aware of the blogging community?

What made you decide to take the plunge and join in?

How did you decide on the type of content you would share?

Have you achieved the goals you wanted when you started blogging and have these changed over time?

What have been the most positive aspects of being a blogger?

Have there been any negative aspects of being a blogger?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #65 - If I Ruled The World...

 

Rules, they are everywhere. There isn't an aspect of our lives that isn't governed by them. Every way we turn, everywhere we go, there is someone telling us what we can and cannot do and how we are expected to behave, and what the consequences of failing to keep to those rules may be.

So, this week we are asking:

What is your attitude to rules? Do you follow them completely? Do you bend them? Are they there to be broken?

Do you have any self-imposed rules that you live your life by? Do you ever break these?

Within your relationship, are there rules you abide by? Who sets these? Have you ever broken them and, if so, was it deliberate? What are the consequences of rule breaking in this context?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Julie, author of Masters Pleasing Bitch (aka @MPBjulie) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #64 - Vocalisation

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F4TFriday #63 - Do It Yourself

Having sex, according to Woody Allen, is like bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand. Actually, even if you do have a good partner, sometimes nothing quite beats a little bit of "alone time". After all, can anyone really know how we like to be touched and aroused better than we do ourselves?

So, this week we are taking things into our own hands and asking:

How often to you indulge yourself? How do you do it? Fingers? Toys? A combination?

Do you have any particular tricks or techniques that work best for you?

Why do you do it? Are there any particular scenarios or circumstances that mean you are more likely to indulge yourself?

Is it a solitary experience or, if you have a partner, do you let them watch? If so, what do you like about being observed?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #62 - Education, Education, Education...

It's probably fair to say that the quality of sex education varies considerably. If I were being cynical, based on my own experience far too many years ago, I would say it ranges from poor all the way down to utterly inadequate. In my day it was pretty much limited to "Man puts penis inside woman's vagina. Man's sperm fertilises woman's egg. That's where babies come from."

Now, depending on where you live, and your age, your experience may be broadly similar to, or completely different from mine. So, this week, what we want to know is:

What elements do you believe a comprehensive sex education programme should cover and why?

How should the responsibility for teaching kids about sex be split between parents and schools?

What age do you believe we should start teaching children about sex?

If there was one thing that could have improved your own experience of sex education, what would it have been?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of my life as a submissive wife (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #60 - Abrupt Endings

As we alluded to back in Week 47, sex isn't always as perfect as it is depicted in the movies.

Picture the scene: everything has moved along nicely, you're both in the zone and are making all the moves, climax is approaching and you both know it's going to be big one; and then...

The phone rings, there's a knock at the door, the cat jumps up on the bed, or any one of a number of other things happen that bring things to an untimely conclusion.

This week what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where you you have had to stop while "in full flow"? 

What happened? 

How did your partner react?

Were you able to get things "back on track" and if so, how?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to May Moore, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #59 - It's A Secret

Many people on Twitter use anonymous, or pseudonymous accounts. Within the sex-blogging community, many of us prefer to keep our actual identities "hidden" from the wider world.

So, this week we are exploring the topic online anonymity/pseudonymity by asking:

How "real" is your online persona?

Do you use a pseudonym, your real identity or both?

Where you use a pseudonym how open about your actual identity are you?

Is your anonymous/pseudonymous online self a secret or more a form of protective "camouflage"?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #58 - If I Had A Photograph...

A number of us in this community take part in the #SinfulSunday or FebPhotoFest memes run by Molly Moore, while others share photos via Boobday by Hyacinth Jones.

Even if you don't participate in memes or share photos online, many people take naughty/intimate photos to share with a partner and others take them simply for their own enjoyment.

So, this week, we are asking:

If you take risqué photographs, what is it that you enjoy most? The creativity, the composition, the feedback you get from those who see them?

If you participate in any of the memes above, what made you decide to take part? How did you feel the first time you linked a post for others to see?

How comfortable are you sharing semi-nude/nude/sexually explicit photos of yourself, either online or via a "sext"?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #56 - Absent Friends

Like so many of us, we were shocked to learn of the passing of M from Cammies On The Floor. M was a long time friend of the site and a frequent contributor to this and many other memes that the members of this community run.

Her contributions were always well thought out, sexy, and often wickedly humourous and her passing leaves a large hole in the lives of all who knew her.

We aren't asking a question this week; somehow that just doesn't seem right. If, however, you have any memories you would like to share, please feel free to add them here.

F4TFriday #55 - Making Sense

Humans experience the world around them through their senses. Touch, taste, sight, sound and scent all combine to a greater or lesser degree to build up a picture of our surroundings.

Many of us have a dominant sense; some of us are visual, some are auditory, whereas others are tactile. Some of us have lost or have a restricted use of one or more senses, which impacts how we perceive and determine our world.

Sex, by its very nature, is a very sensual and sensory experience. So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you employ your senses to enhance your enjoyment of sex?

Which of your senses have the biggest impact on your enjoyment?

What effect does sensory deprivation (e.g. blindfolds, restraint) have on you?

If you have a sensory impairment or have lost the use of a sense, how has this affected you (if at all) sexually?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to SubmissiveJen for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #54 - Performing Arts

Generally speaking, sex, whether it be on your own or with a partner is something that is done in private; where the only people who know what is going on are the participants. That isn't always the case however; some of us have a bit of an exhibitionist streak in us.

So, this week we are interested in the idea of sex/masturbation as a performance, and what we want to know is, if either in person, or by some form of video chat (e.g. Skype):

Have you ever let your partner watch you masturbate? Has your partner ever let you watch them?

Have you ever let your partner watch you have sex with someone else? Has your partner ever  watched you have sex with someone else?

Have you ever deliberately let someone other than you partner watch you have sex?

Not counting film/TV, have you watched another person (other than your partner) masturbate or have sex? Did they know they were being watched?

 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #53 - A Few Of Our Favourite Things

It is sometime said that being legally old enough to have sex and alcohol are the only compensations for having to endure "adult life". Now, I will admit to enjoying a glass or two of my favourite poison at the weekend, but because this blog concentrates more on the sex side of things, this week's poser goes something like this:

What are your favourite sexual things to do? 

What positions do you prefer and why?

Do you have a favourite place for having sex?

Is there something you think you would enjoy but haven't tried yet?

 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #52 - Seduction

Modern life is busy, we all know that. Sometimes a quick wake-up shag, an opportunistic quickie, or a tired, end-of-day, semi-somnolent fumble and snuggle with benefits is all we have the time and energy to manage. There is nothing wrong with these; quick, time limited sex can still be great and is almost certainly better than none, but it is definitely nice, sometimes, to be able to devote considerably more time and effort to the proceedings. 

So, with this in mind, this week what we want to know is: 

Assuming you have no time constraints, what would your "ideal" experience be like?

When you are in the mood, do you have any seduction ploys that you like to use?

What do you like to do to prolong the pleasure for both you and your partner? 

 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #51 - Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow?

Pubic hair, nature's dental-floss. Some of us let it grow wild and free, others tend to keep it under varying degrees of control, and some prefer to cast it all away and go smooth. How we style (or not) down below is a personal choice that we make for reasons of style, comfort, hygiene, or any of a range of factors.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you style your pubic hair? What were your reasons for choosing that style?

What are your preferences for a partner's styling?

Would you (or have you) ever change(d) your styling just to please a partner?

F4TFriday #50 - What I Know Now

Firstly, before I go any further, some of you may have noticed that 50 in the post header. Yes, that's right, this is the 50^th "Food For Thought Friday" prompt. How on earth did that even happen?

I'd really like to thank everyone who has supported this meme since it started, especially those of you who have joined in since our relaunch; it really does mean so much. I would never have believed that when this started out, it would have lasted this long and had such wonderful support.

Which brings us by means of a rather unsubtle segue to this weeks topic. As we get older, while we may not necessarily become any wiser, we do accumulate more knowledge than we did 10, 20, or 30 years ago (apologies to anyone not actually old enough to have 30 years of memories).

So, this week, what we'd really love to know is:

What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

What one thing might shock that younger you?

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia? 

F4TFriday #49 - When Harry Met Sally

If you were expecting "THAT" clip, I'm sorry but you are going to be disappointed. No, instead we're are focusing on the assertion that men and woman cannot be friends because sooner or later one person whats to have sex with the other.

So, with that in mind, we are asking:

Do you agree with this assertion?

Have you ever had a friendship where one person did want to have sex with the other? Who was the "guilty" party, you or the other person. Was it reciprocated?

If you answered yes to the last part, did "it" happen?

"Yes" or "No" were there any consequences, god or bad? Did the friendship survive?

F4TFriday #48 - Rough or Smooth?

This week, we are looking at the prickly issue of facial hair, and we are splitting the questions along gender lines.

So, without further ado:

Ladies

What is your preference in a man, clean shaven, stubble, mustache, beard? Why?

If your preference is for beards, is there a particular style you prefer a man to have?

Are there any "benefits" to having smooth/facially hirsute partner?

Gentlemen

What is your preference in respect of your own face? Why?

If you have a partner, do they like your style? And again, why?

Would you change your look if your partner really wanted you to, even though you prefer the way you are?

F4TFriday #47 - Epic Fails

The trouble with sex on the television is that it's far too easy to fall off and hurt yourself...  Actually, while that may have been true in the days of bulky CRT sets, today's flat-screen devices have probably eliminated that risk.

Jokes aside though, sex as depicted on film and television is almost always perfect: zip fastenings never get stuck, no one ever gets their hair caught in their partner's watch strap, people never accidentally knee or elbow the other person when they change position and (unless it's porn), there's never any mess.

Real sex is, of course, often far from perfect, so this week we are asking:

What has been your most embarrassing sex "fail"?

How did it happen?

Were you able to laugh it off and move on, or did it bring things to an untimely conclusion?

F4TFriday #46 - Good Points, Well Made...

As humans, we find it far too easy to concentrate on our imperfections; those bits of us that are too big, too small, stick out too much or, don't stick out far enough. As a species, we seem to take a perverse kind of pleasure about making ourselves feel bad about ourselves.

In an attempt to redress the balance, even just a little, this week we are focussing on our good bits; so:

What bit (or bits) of your body do you like (or at the very least, don't feel too negatively inclined toward)? Why do you feel that way?

What bits of you have others (friends, partners, etc.) told you they liked? Did they tell you why they liked them?

How do you feel when someone compliments your body, particularly a bit that you yourself are less keen on?

F4TFriday #45 - That's So Inappropriate...

Sometimes we can't help ourselves. The urge, the desire, the need are simply too much to resist. Whether it's an intimate family celebration, at a gathering of friends, at a concert or the theatre, or maybe just in the queue for the taxi home after a night out; sometimes we just can't wait to get home to get down.

So, the question we are asking this week is:

Where is the most inappropriate place that you have engaged in any kind of sexual activity?

What did you do/how far did you go?

Did you get caught/interrupted?

Is there any location/situation that is on your fantasy "to-do" list?

F4TFriday #44 - Dare To Bare

I don't know what it's been like where you live, but here it has been a very long winter. Even in a climate as renowned for miserable weather as ours, the fact that it was still snowing after Easter, in April, doesn't do much in the way of filling you with the joys of spring.

So, with the onset of longer days, and hopefully warmer weather not too far off in the future, we turning our thoughts to the outdoors and enjoying the sunshine.  To that end, we are asking:

On a balmy summer day, how bare will you dare to go? T-shirt and shorts? bikini/swimsuit? Topless? Nude?

For those of you who bare all (or mostly all), what is it that you enjoy most about the experience.

For those who prefer to remain covered, are there any circumstances where you might consider baring more than you usually do?

Bonus: what is the best way to enjoy a warm summer's day, either with or without a partner?

F4TFriday #43 - Foot In Mouth Disease

You're in a club/bar/other location.  You've spotted someone who has taken your fancy. Glances have been exchanged and their body language is an invitation to approach.  You walk towards them, trying to come up with a good opening line, and then...

Yes, we're talking chat ups.

Do you have a tried and tested chat-up line?

Have you ever used, or had a really corny line used on you?  Did it work?

Are you calm and confident, or are you like Jeff?

F4TFriday #42 - Dating By Numbers

So, you're on a date and it's going well; very well... The chemistry is there, the attraction is there. All that both of you really want to do at this point is take it somewhere private and move things up to the next level, as it were.

On the assumption that both of you are definitely up for getting down, what we want to know this week is:

Does it matter how many dates you have had up to this point?

If it was clear things were definitely heading in that direction, would it make any difference if this were a first or subsequent date?

What, if any, are your "rules" for dating and sex?

F4TFriday #41 - Arousal

Arousal. It's one of those things that is sometimes difficult to define. Not the word itself, you can look that up easily enough in a dictionary, but the experience.

The things that turn us on can be many and varied and what puts one person in the mood, might switch another person off completely. Sometimes, something that normally works for you might have little or no effect at all.

So, this week, what we want to is:

Is there anything that is pretty much guaranteed to arouse you?

Do you have any "go to" tips, tricks or techniques that you use to arouse yourself and/or your partner? 

F4TFriday #40 - Under Wraps

Nudity is great. I am a lover of the human body in all its shapes, sizes, colours and varieties. Sometimes, however, it's good to leave a little something to the imagination.

So this week, we want to know:

What do you wear when you want to feel sexy/desirable?

What is the sexiest thing a member of the opposite sex can wear?

What, if anything, is that one item of clothing/footwear that really does it for you?