F4Thought #133 - Friendship

#F4Thought #133 - Friendship
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It was another fabulous turnout last week and all your thoughts on Home were truly wonderful, I know I definitely had specific posts that spoke to me, but I didn’t do that roundup, that task feel to the wonderful Steeled Snake Charmer and Steeled Snake. Our next topic I’ll be introducing in a moment is Friendship but before we begin another awesome week on Food for Thought, let’s find out who our spotlight picks were. 

Spotlight Posts #132 by @SteelChrmr and @steeledsnake

Snake and I were so excited to be asked to do the Spotlight for this week’s Food 4 Thought.  It always makes me laugh when we do these because we choose separately and then use the common ones.  And negotiate for the differences. 

F4TFriday #100 - Landmarks

 

This is the 100^th Food For Thought Friday prompt. If you'd asked me when I started this meme if I ever thought I'd manage to keep it going this long, I would almost certainly have said "no". That it has kept going so long is, in the main, down to the support of those of you (59 of you so far) who have provided contributions week after week to the questions that I and several others have set. So, I would like to offer sincere and very heartfelt thanks to those that have supported and contributed.

This is, however, to be the last prompt that I will be setting. Sadly I no longer have time to devote to this project. However, all is not lost. The lovely May (@May_Matters) of Sex Matters, and Floss (@_floss_84) of Floss Does Life have kindly agreed to step in and take up the reins to keep this meme alive.

F4TFriday #98 - Spread A Little Love

 

The sex blogging community is, above all, a community. We discuss topics that people find difficult to be open about, we promote body/sex/self positivity, we share our experiences, our hopes and fears, and we do it in the knowledge that our fellow bloggers do not judge us.

Having said that, scratch the surface of any blogger hard enough and, underneath you will find a regular human being, who has their own particular tastes and likes.  Part of what makes this community so great is its diversity; the range and breadth of content from contributors is such that there is something out there for everyone to enjoy.

So, in the interests of sharing some love and support for the community of which we are part, we would like you to do something a little different:

F4TFriday #97 - Puting Others First

 

Humans tend to be programmed to focus on their own needs. This isn't necessarily a selfish thing, we need to look after ourselves simply to survive, and we have done a number of prompts in the past about self-care and looking after ourselves.

It is, however, part of our make-up to look after and attend to the needs of those that we care for and who care for us, whether this be in some form of D/s dynamic, or simply as a result of sharing our lives with other people, be they friends, family or partners.

This week's questions are, as always, open to interpretation and may (or may not) be sex related, but what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #91 - At A Loss

 

Usually, loss is seen as a negative. This is understandable as it generally means that we no longer have something of value, be it a possession, a relationship or sometimes even just a particular thought or emotion.

Sometimes, however, loss, or getting lost, can be a good thing. We stumble upon somewhere/something/someone new, it results in us making discoveries, it alters our view on things, and can take our lives in new and (possibly) exciting directions.

Whether the outcome is good, or bad, loss inevitable means change, so, this week, what we want to know is:

What was your most significant loss?

How did you deal with it?

How has that (or any other) loss affected your life?

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PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #88 - In Your Dreams

 

Sex dreams: many of us have had them at one time or another. Sometimes they involve a partner, sometimes a celebrity crush, sometimes a complete stranger and sometimes a "real-life" crush. Usually, all very, well... perhaps innocent isn't quite the word, but harmless fun. Sometimes, the object of our semi-somnolent desire can be extremely inappropriate, a colleague, an authority figure, a best friend or someone that the idea of just gives you shivers (and not the good kind).

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How regularly, if at all, does sex occur in your dreams?

Is there a recurring partner in these dreams?

Who is the most inappropriate person to have featured in a sex dream?

If you have had a sex dream about a friend, did you tell them? How did they react?

You are invited to the Inlinkz link party!

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PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday - 2018 In Review

As we said last week, there's no question this week, but we're keeping last week's link up open so you can still add to it with details of your festive frolics and seasonal shenanigans if you want to.

First of all, we would just like to say a huge

THANK YOU!
to the 37 bloggers who have contributed a staggering 236 posts in response to the 47 prompts that we have run this year. Your contributions have been fantastic and we simply couldn't do this without your support.

Of those 37 bloggers, 28 of you joined in for the first time this year; with the remaining 9 bloggers rejoining us after our period of hiatus. I am sure everyone has enjoyed reading each other's contributions this year and we are looking forward to seeing what everyone dishes up for us in the year ahead.

Our top 10 contributors accounted for an astonishing 164 posts (a very apt 69% of the total...), so we would offer extra special thanks to the following bloggers for going above and beyond:

• Kilted Wookie - @Kilted_Wookie
• Marie Rebelle - @RebelsNotes
• Moist Musings - @MoistMusings
• dommewithdogs
• submissy - @5ubmissy
• Julie (Master's Pleasing Bitch) - @MPBjulie
• Witty - @PuppetPanpan96
• Miss Scarlet - MissScarletUK
• kisungura - @kisungura
• Wriggly Kitty - @wriggly_kitty

Like many in the blogging community, we were shocked and deeply saddened by the tragic loss of M of Cammies On The Floor earlier this year. M was a long time supporter of this site, a fantastic blogger and an all round wonderful human being and she will be greatly missed. A number of bloggers wrote tributes to her, and if you wish to do so, you can read them here. That particular link up is still open, so if you would like to add your own tribute, please feel free to do so.

So, whether you are a contributor, a reader or if you have suggested a question, all that remains if for us to say thank you yet again for your support, and to wish you health, happiness and health in the coming new year and beyond.

F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #75 - Being Thankful

 

It's not a holiday we celebrate in the UK, but yesterday was Thanksgiving in the US.

As the year begins to draw to a close, and the holiday season looms ever closer, this is often a time for reflection.

So, this week, all we want to know is:

What are the things in your life that you are most thankful for?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter

F4TFriday #72 - Pick Me Ups

 

I've been going through one of my "not so great" spells recently. Sex blogging and mental health concerns do seem to go hand in hand. The wonderful Sassy Cat has a list where bloggers can share their experiences under the hashtag #SB4MH (Sex Bloggers for Mental Health).

Even if you are fortunate to not be one of the estimate one in four that experiences mental health conditions in your life time, the chances are you will have experienced times in your life that were less than happy. Everybody suffers from the occasional low mood and blue/black day.

So, with that in mind, this week we are asking:

What do you do to try and pick yourself up when you are down?

Have you got any tried and tested techniques to lift your spirits when things are dark and grim?

When all else fails, how do you look after you?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

#SB4MH
We pledge our commitment to blog for our mental health. We will write about mental health topics not only for ourselves but for others. We do this to destigmatise mental illness and to promote mental health awareness & education. We are sex bloggers for mental health. #NotAlone #SexNotStigma

F4TFriday #59 - It's A Secret

Many people on Twitter use anonymous, or pseudonymous accounts. Within the sex-blogging community, many of us prefer to keep our actual identities "hidden" from the wider world.

So, this week we are exploring the topic online anonymity/pseudonymity by asking:

How "real" is your online persona?

Do you use a pseudonym, your real identity or both?

Where you use a pseudonym how open about your actual identity are you?

Is your anonymous/pseudonymous online self a secret or more a form of protective "camouflage"?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #56 - Absent Friends

Like so many of us, we were shocked to learn of the passing of M from Cammies On The Floor. M was a long time friend of the site and a frequent contributor to this and many other memes that the members of this community run.

Her contributions were always well thought out, sexy, and often wickedly humourous and her passing leaves a large hole in the lives of all who knew her.

We aren't asking a question this week; somehow that just doesn't seem right. If, however, you have any memories you would like to share, please feel free to add them here.

F4TFriday #49 - When Harry Met Sally

If you were expecting "THAT" clip, I'm sorry but you are going to be disappointed. No, instead we're are focusing on the assertion that men and woman cannot be friends because sooner or later one person whats to have sex with the other.

So, with that in mind, we are asking:

Do you agree with this assertion?

Have you ever had a friendship where one person did want to have sex with the other? Who was the "guilty" party, you or the other person. Was it reciprocated?

If you answered yes to the last part, did "it" happen?

"Yes" or "No" were there any consequences, god or bad? Did the friendship survive?