F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

 

As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

 

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

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A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #68 - Special Occasions

 

Today is my birthday. To mark the fact that I have been on the planet for 48 years, I'm heading off to spend a well earned week lying on a beach and, the chances are, all I will be wearing for much of the next seven days is sunscreen (and possibly a smile).

Birthdays are, of course, potentially only one reason to celebrate. Others can include weddings, the festive/holiday season, a promotion at work, a relationship anniversary, or possibly just the fact it's the weekend.

This week, what we want to know is:

Do you have any "rituals" with which you celebrate/mark special occasions?

What was the last treat (surprise or otherwise) that you gave a partner or that a partner gave to you?

What lengths have you gone to to make a particular occasion "special"?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #65 - If I Ruled The World...

 

Rules, they are everywhere. There isn't an aspect of our lives that isn't governed by them. Every way we turn, everywhere we go, there is someone telling us what we can and cannot do and how we are expected to behave, and what the consequences of failing to keep to those rules may be.

So, this week we are asking:

What is your attitude to rules? Do you follow them completely? Do you bend them? Are they there to be broken?

Do you have any self-imposed rules that you live your life by? Do you ever break these?

Within your relationship, are there rules you abide by? Who sets these? Have you ever broken them and, if so, was it deliberate? What are the consequences of rule breaking in this context?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Julie, author of Masters Pleasing Bitch (aka @MPBjulie) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #50 - What I Know Now

Firstly, before I go any further, some of you may have noticed that 50 in the post header. Yes, that's right, this is the 50^th "Food For Thought Friday" prompt. How on earth did that even happen?

I'd really like to thank everyone who has supported this meme since it started, especially those of you who have joined in since our relaunch; it really does mean so much. I would never have believed that when this started out, it would have lasted this long and had such wonderful support.

Which brings us by means of a rather unsubtle segue to this weeks topic. As we get older, while we may not necessarily become any wiser, we do accumulate more knowledge than we did 10, 20, or 30 years ago (apologies to anyone not actually old enough to have 30 years of memories).

So, this week, what we'd really love to know is:

What one part of your sex life today would most surprise the 18 year old you?

What one thing might shock that younger you?

Is there anything in the younger you’s sexual ambitions or fantasies you have not yet fulfilled?

What part of the younger you’s sex life do you look back on with the most nostalgia? 

F4TFriday #35 - Tie Me Up! Time Me Down!

No, we're not actually referring to the 1989 Antonio Banderas film of the same name; we are in fact talking about restraint. From the lightest of restraint with silk scarves, through handcuffs to full on shibari, bondage/restraint can take many forms.  This week, we are asking:

Do you enjoy bondage/restraint?

Are you a rigger or do you prefer to be rigged?

What is the appeal of bondage/rope-play to you?

F4TF #16 - Kinky Fuckery

Apologies for using a term from 'that book', but this week we are asking you to share your deepest desires with us:

Do you have any fetishes?

Will you tell us about them; what they are, why you enjoy them, maybe how you developed them?

Are you ashamed or embarrassed by them or are you happy to be open about them? 

Do you think they are unusual?

F4TF #3 - Punishment or Pleasure?

This week, for our third "Food For Thought Friday", we turn our attention to punishment.

Within the D/s community, there may be times when it is necessary for the Dominant partner to administer a corrective spanking/caning/thrashing. Our question this week, however is directed to those on the receiving ends of such punishments.

Do you consider a corrective spanking/caning/thrashing as a pleasure or a punishment?