F4TFriday #63 - Do It Yourself

Having sex, according to Woody Allen, is like bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand. Actually, even if you do have a good partner, sometimes nothing quite beats a little bit of "alone time". After all, can anyone really know how we like to be touched and aroused better than we do ourselves?

So, this week we are taking things into our own hands and asking:

How often to you indulge yourself? How do you do it? Fingers? Toys? A combination?

Do you have any particular tricks or techniques that work best for you?

Why do you do it? Are there any particular scenarios or circumstances that mean you are more likely to indulge yourself?

Is it a solitary experience or, if you have a partner, do you let them watch? If so, what do you like about being observed?

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F4TFriday #62 - Education, Education, Education...

It's probably fair to say that the quality of sex education varies considerably. If I were being cynical, based on my own experience far too many years ago, I would say it ranges from poor all the way down to utterly inadequate. In my day it was pretty much limited to "Man puts penis inside woman's vagina. Man's sperm fertilises woman's egg. That's where babies come from."

Now, depending on where you live, and your age, your experience may be broadly similar to, or completely different from mine. So, this week, what we want to know is:

What elements do you believe a comprehensive sex education programme should cover and why?

How should the responsibility for teaching kids about sex be split between parents and schools?

What age do you believe we should start teaching children about sex?

If there was one thing that could have improved your own experience of sex education, what would it have been?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of my life as a submissive wife (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
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F4TFriday #60 - Abrupt Endings

As we alluded to back in Week 47, sex isn't always as perfect as it is depicted in the movies.

Picture the scene: everything has moved along nicely, you're both in the zone and are making all the moves, climax is approaching and you both know it's going to be big one; and then...

The phone rings, there's a knock at the door, the cat jumps up on the bed, or any one of a number of other things happen that bring things to an untimely conclusion.

This week what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where you you have had to stop while "in full flow"? 

What happened? 

How did your partner react?

Were you able to get things "back on track" and if so, how?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to May Moore, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing this week's question.

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F4TFriday #59 - It's A Secret

Many people on Twitter use anonymous, or pseudonymous accounts. Within the sex-blogging community, many of us prefer to keep our actual identities "hidden" from the wider world.

So, this week we are exploring the topic online anonymity/pseudonymity by asking:

How "real" is your online persona?

Do you use a pseudonym, your real identity or both?

Where you use a pseudonym how open about your actual identity are you?

Is your anonymous/pseudonymous online self a secret or more a form of protective "camouflage"?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing this week's question.

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