F4TFriday #87 - The Dating Game

 

Much of the internet these days, it seems, is devoted to helping people either get together, get it on or, on occasion, both. Whether it be "traditional" dating sites such a "match" or "eHarmony" or more sex orientated sites like "fabswingers" or "adult friendfinder", or apps like Tinder or Grindr, there are countless ways of connecting with people for the purposes of sex and/or relationships.

Of course, it wasn't always like this. Those of us of a certain age remember (fondly or otherwise) trying to chat people up in bars or clubs, or being introduced/set up by mutual friends and acquaintances. As someone who has used both the new-fangled and old fashioned approaches, I'm not entirely sure that either way is better, or less apprehensive making than the other, but I digress.

So, what we want to know this week is:

Are you currently dating? If so, what is you preferred method of arranging a date?

If you are in a relationship, how did you meet your current partner and how long did it take before you realised you were "a couple"?

Share an amusing dating anecdote, or recount an experience of a date that went either badly wrong, or incredibly well. Are you still in touch with that person?

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F4TFriday #86 - Touchy-Feely

 

Sex is, by its very nature, a highly sensual activity. Sight, sound, scent, and taste all add to and heighten the experience. Primarily though, sex is tactile. Whether you are on your own, or with a partner, touching, and being touched play a large part in igniting arousing and satisfying our sexual needs and desires.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

How do you like to be touched?

How do you like to touch yourself?

Which parts/areas of you body do you most enjoy touching or having touched?

Which part of a partner's body do you most enjoy touching? Why is that?

Are there any parts of your body that you can't stand having touched?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #85 - Getting Off

 

Orgasms, it is said, come in one person sizes. We all, if we're lucky enough to have them, experience them in our own way. The only orgasms we ever truly experience are our own as they are almost entirely internal. What we feel is unique to us, our mood, the stimulation we're experiencing and the circumstances under which they are being experienced.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Do you remember your first orgasm? How old were you? Tell us about it.

What is your favourite way to reach/be brought to a climax?

What is the easiest/fastest way for you to have an orgasm? How long does it normally take you?

How many times a week do you try to reach orgasm? Typically, how often do you manage to get off?

Have you ever had an orgasm at the same time as your partner? Who normally comes first?

Have you ever faked an orgasm? What were the reasons/circumstances that led you to fake it?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #84 - Casual, Committed, Mono Or Poly. Relationship Evolution

 

Sexual relationships come in all flavours; casual or committed, mono or poly, and all shades and variations in between. Relationships also evolve and change over time. A casual relationship can become a committed one, a vanilla one can become a D/s one, a mono one can become a poly one, and a non-mono can sometime become exclusive.

So, this week we want to lift the lid on the evolution of your relationships by asking:

Casual sex, dating, friends with benefits, hook-up, one night stand, fuck-buddy; have you ever had one (or more) of these arrangements? What is the difference?

What is the most interesting way you ever met a partner?

Have you ever had a hook-up become a relationship? How do you know that it had happened?

How would you tell a potential partner you want a non-monogamous or D/s relationship? If you are already in one, how did it evolve?

If you relationship is poly, what is its principal dynamic? Do you have a primary? A few fuck buddies? Is everyone equal? Does everyone know?

What does your ideal relationship look like? Are you already in it?

A BIG "Thank you!" this week to Morag, author of Moist Musings (aka @moist_musings) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #83 - Obsessive Madness

 

I am one of those people who believes that loving someone and being in love with someone are different things. The two things may be related; you may love and be in love with someone at the same time. On the other hand, they could be two distinct and discrete emotional states; the word "love" being a handy and simple linguistic shortcut for emotional states that are anything but simple to define.

So, guess what?  This week, that's exactly what we want you to try and do, by asking:

What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

How does these differences colour and effect the way you interact with that person?

Where sex is involved, does the emotional layer affect its quality?

Where do lust and desire fit into this?

A BIG "Thank you!" this week to May More, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #82 - Reveaing All

 

So, all of us, I would imagine, take our clothes off at some time and there can, obviously, be a host of non-sexual reasons for doing so: taking a shower, going to bed, a medical examination, etc. The chances are that, in doing so, we have undressed in the presence of others.

Sometimes, however, the intent is absolutely sexual; to provoke desire and elicit a lust-fueled response, or maybe just to tease, taunt and frustrate.

So, this week, it's all about stripping off, and we are asking:

Have you ever played any game, e.g strip poker, where removing clothes was a forfeit for losing? How far did you take it? Did you deliberately play to lose?

Have you ever danced naked in front of anyone? What prompted the experience?

Have you ever given a partner (or someone else) a private dance? Has someone ever done so for you?

Have or would you ever perform a lap dance/striptease for a complete stranger?

Would you consider, or have you ever, accepted payment to remove your clothes?

To join in, write an post on your thoughts on this question and simply click on the "Add your link" button and fill out the details below.

F4TFriday #81 - What Time is Love?

 

I admit, I'm showing my age, dredging up a classic KLF track from 1991 as the topic title this week. Sometimes though, these things just have to be done.

Some of us are morning people, bursting with energy even before the alarm clock has gone off. Others are more lunchtime/afternoon types, who need a little time to get properly into our stride. Then there are the evening/night people who catch their second second wind and come alive as the day winds down.

When it comes to sex, as is so often the case, a lot of it is down to available time, mood, location and circumstances and, while we may have our preferences, we grab our fun when we can.

What we want to know this week is:

What is your favourite time for getting it on? Do you prefer some horizontal cardio before getting out of bed? Do you like to fit in a quick session at lunchtime? Do you prefer a "nightcap" to wind down before you go to sleep?

Is it different at the weekends/on holidays to during the week?

What is it about a particular time of day (or night) that puts you in the mood?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter

F4TFriday #80 - Fresh Starts & Clean Slates

 

So, as the song said, "another year over, and a new one just begun..." We hope you had a wonderful festive/holiday season and now our attention turns to the coming year...

A new year is a new beginning; a time to put the past behind us and look to the future. So, this week we thought we'd ease everyone back in fairly gently, and keep things simple by asking:

What are your goals, dreams, ambitions for 2019?

What, if anything, do you plan to try and change about your life? Why?

Where do you see yourself in 12 months time?

To join in, write an post on your thoughts on this question and simply click on the "Add your link" button and fill out the details below.

F4TFriday - 2018 In Review

As we said last week, there's no question this week, but we're keeping last week's link up open so you can still add to it with details of your festive frolics and seasonal shenanigans if you want to.

First of all, we would just like to say a huge

THANK YOU!
to the 37 bloggers who have contributed a staggering 236 posts in response to the 47 prompts that we have run this year. Your contributions have been fantastic and we simply couldn't do this without your support.

Of those 37 bloggers, 28 of you joined in for the first time this year; with the remaining 9 bloggers rejoining us after our period of hiatus. I am sure everyone has enjoyed reading each other's contributions this year and we are looking forward to seeing what everyone dishes up for us in the year ahead.

Our top 10 contributors accounted for an astonishing 164 posts (a very apt 69% of the total...), so we would offer extra special thanks to the following bloggers for going above and beyond:

• Kilted Wookie - @Kilted_Wookie
• Marie Rebelle - @RebelsNotes
• Moist Musings - @MoistMusings
• dommewithdogs
• submissy - @5ubmissy
• Julie (Master's Pleasing Bitch) - @MPBjulie
• Witty - @PuppetPanpan96
• Miss Scarlet - MissScarletUK
• kisungura - @kisungura
• Wriggly Kitty - @wriggly_kitty

Like many in the blogging community, we were shocked and deeply saddened by the tragic loss of M of Cammies On The Floor earlier this year. M was a long time supporter of this site, a fantastic blogger and an all round wonderful human being and she will be greatly missed. A number of bloggers wrote tributes to her, and if you wish to do so, you can read them here. That particular link up is still open, so if you would like to add your own tribute, please feel free to do so.

So, whether you are a contributor, a reader or if you have suggested a question, all that remains if for us to say thank you yet again for your support, and to wish you health, happiness and health in the coming new year and beyond.

F4TFriday #79 - Festive Fun And Frolics

So, here we are, the shortest/longest day of the year depending on which hemisphere you inhabit. The party season is in full swing and the jolly, fat, judgemental guy in the red suit is frantically making last minute alterations to his naughty and nice lists (although, in my opinion, naughty and nice should be on the same list...).

So, in a spirit of Yuletide merriment, what we want to know is:

What have you done to earn your place on the naughty list this year?

Who will you be kissing under the mistletoe? Who would be your fantasy mistletoers?

Have you ever done something at a Christmas party that perhaps you shouldn't have? Were there any repercussions (good or bad)?

Do you have any naughty festive "traditions"?

Alternatively, if you get up to any other forms festive fun and games, feel free to to let us know...

We will be taking a break over the holidays and, as such, there won't be a question next week, but we're leaving this prompt open until we return in the new year, so that gives you two weeks to share the details of your festive frolics and/or seasonal shenanigans.

All that remains is to say a huge THANK YOU to everyone who has taken part this year and to wish you all a very merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year when it comes.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.