F4TFriday #65 - If I Ruled The World...

 

Rules, they are everywhere. There isn't an aspect of our lives that isn't governed by them. Every way we turn, everywhere we go, there is someone telling us what we can and cannot do and how we are expected to behave, and what the consequences of failing to keep to those rules may be.

So, this week we are asking:

What is your attitude to rules? Do you follow them completely? Do you bend them? Are they there to be broken?

Do you have any self-imposed rules that you live your life by? Do you ever break these?

Within your relationship, are there rules you abide by? Who sets these? Have you ever broken them and, if so, was it deliberate? What are the consequences of rule breaking in this context?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Julie, author of Masters Pleasing Bitch (aka @MPBjulie) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

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F4TFriday #64 - Vocalisation

Sex, in porn, is a very noisy activity. For some reason known only to the makers of adult entertainment, it seems that women in particular are incapable of engaging in sex without sounding like they are on the verge of a chronic asthma attack. Men, on the other hand, seem to have mastered the art of heavy breathing and occasional Neanderthalesque grunts, whilst sounding like their are trying not to sneeze at the point of climax. Yes, when it comes to depicting how people communicate their pleasure, porn is, once again, guilty of a certain, shall we say, "artistic" exaggeration.

So, what we want to know this week is:

How do you communicate pleasure? Are you a moaner, a groaner, a screamer or a sigher?

If you are with a partner, how do they like you to express pleasure? How do you like them to express theirs?

Aside from vocalisations expressing pleasure, what other sounds during sex add to the overall experience?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #63 - Do It Yourself

Having sex, according to Woody Allen, is like bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand. Actually, even if you do have a good partner, sometimes nothing quite beats a little bit of "alone time". After all, can anyone really know how we like to be touched and aroused better than we do ourselves?

So, this week we are taking things into our own hands and asking:

How often to you indulge yourself? How do you do it? Fingers? Toys? A combination?

Do you have any particular tricks or techniques that work best for you?

Why do you do it? Are there any particular scenarios or circumstances that mean you are more likely to indulge yourself?

Is it a solitary experience or, if you have a partner, do you let them watch? If so, what do you like about being observed?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #62 - Education, Education, Education...

It's probably fair to say that the quality of sex education varies considerably. If I were being cynical, based on my own experience far too many years ago, I would say it ranges from poor all the way down to utterly inadequate. In my day it was pretty much limited to "Man puts penis inside woman's vagina. Man's sperm fertilises woman's egg. That's where babies come from."

Now, depending on where you live, and your age, your experience may be broadly similar to, or completely different from mine. So, this week, what we want to know is:

What elements do you believe a comprehensive sex education programme should cover and why?

How should the responsibility for teaching kids about sex be split between parents and schools?

What age do you believe we should start teaching children about sex?

If there was one thing that could have improved your own experience of sex education, what would it have been?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of my life as a submissive wife (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions

As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?

 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #60 - Abrupt Endings

As we alluded to back in Week 47, sex isn't always as perfect as it is depicted in the movies.

Picture the scene: everything has moved along nicely, you're both in the zone and are making all the moves, climax is approaching and you both know it's going to be big one; and then...

The phone rings, there's a knock at the door, the cat jumps up on the bed, or any one of a number of other things happen that bring things to an untimely conclusion.

This week what we want to know is:

Have you had an experience where you you have had to stop while "in full flow"? 

What happened? 

How did your partner react?

Were you able to get things "back on track" and if so, how?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to May Moore, author of Sex Matters (aka @more_matters) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #59 - It's A Secret

Many people on Twitter use anonymous, or pseudonymous accounts. Within the sex-blogging community, many of us prefer to keep our actual identities "hidden" from the wider world.

So, this week we are exploring the topic online anonymity/pseudonymity by asking:

How "real" is your online persona?

Do you use a pseudonym, your real identity or both?

Where you use a pseudonym how open about your actual identity are you?

Is your anonymous/pseudonymous online self a secret or more a form of protective "camouflage"?

 
A  BIG "Thank you!" this week to Miss Scarlet author of Miss Scarlet Writes (aka @MissScarletUK) for providing this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #58 - If I Had A Photograph...

A number of us in this community take part in the #SinfulSunday or FebPhotoFest memes run by Molly Moore, while others share photos via Boobday by Hyacinth Jones.

Even if you don't participate in memes or share photos online, many people take naughty/intimate photos to share with a partner and others take them simply for their own enjoyment.

So, this week, we are asking:

If you take risqué photographs, what is it that you enjoy most? The creativity, the composition, the feedback you get from those who see them?

If you participate in any of the memes above, what made you decide to take part? How did you feel the first time you linked a post for others to see?

How comfortable are you sharing semi-nude/nude/sexually explicit photos of yourself, either online or via a "sext"?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #57 - A First Time For Everything

Way back in F4TFriday #9, we asked you to share your memories of your first overtly sexual experience.

Sex, of course, has many "firsts": the first time you perform a particular act, the first time you have sex with a particular partner, the first time you try something you've never done before are just a few examples of sexual "first times".

So, with that in mind, this week we are simply asking you to:

Share the details of a particularly memorable "first" - what was it that made it so memorable for you?

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

F4TFriday #56 - Absent Friends

Like so many of us, we were shocked to learn of the passing of M from Cammies On The Floor. M was a long time friend of the site and a frequent contributor to this and many other memes that the members of this community run.

Her contributions were always well thought out, sexy, and often wickedly humourous and her passing leaves a large hole in the lives of all who knew her.

We aren't asking a question this week; somehow that just doesn't seem right. If, however, you have any memories you would like to share, please feel free to add them here.