Friday, 24 May 2019

F4TFriday #100 - Landmarks

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This is the 100th Food For Thought Friday prompt. If you'd asked me when I started this meme if I ever thought I'd manage to keep it going this long, I would almost certainly have said "no". That it has kept going so long is, in the main, down to the support of those of you (59 of you so far) who have provided contributions week after week to the questions that I and several others have set. So, I would like to offer sincere and very heartfelt thanks to those that have supported and contributed.

This is, however, to be the last prompt that I will be setting. Sadly I no longer have time to devote to this project. However, all is not lost. The lovely May (@May_Matters) of Sex Matters, and Floss (@_floss_84) of Floss Does Life have kindly agreed to step in and take up the reins to keep this meme alive.

So, to celebrate this particular landmark, what we want to know is:
What, if any, have been your particular landmarks, either in relation to your blog or your wider life?

Do you have any future goals/landmarks you want to achieve? What are they?
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Friday, 17 May 2019

F4TFriday #99 - Picture This

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Most, if not all of us, have taken "sexy"/"naughty" photos of ourselves at one point or another. It may have been for your own personal collection, to send to a partner, or perhaps you posted it to a meme such as Sinful Sunday, February Photo Fest or Scavenger Hunt.

Some of us take them for the challenge (and risks) of taking such photos, some out of a sense of exhibitionism, some for the enjoyment of others and some people do it to help with their own self image/self esteem. Most of us, quite possibly do it for a combination of these reasons (or more) in varying proportions.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
What are your motivations for taking sexy photos?

Who are you taking them for? Who is your primary audience?

What challenges do you face/overcome when taking such photos? What lengths have you gone to to get "that" shot?

How did you feel the first time you sent/posted a sexy photo?

What are your limits in terms of what you would/wouldn't show/do in a photo you share?

Have there ever been any awkward/embarrassing moments (e.g. getting caught in the act) when taking your photos?

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Friday, 10 May 2019

F4TFriday #98 - Spread A Little Love

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The sex blogging community is, above all, a community. We discuss topics that people find difficult to be open about, we promote body/sex/self positivity, we share our experiences, our hopes and fears, and we do it in the knowledge that our fellow bloggers do not judge us.

Having said that, scratch the surface of any blogger hard enough and, underneath you will find a regular human being, who has their own particular tastes and likes.  Part of what makes this community so great is its diversity; the range and breadth of content from contributors is such that there is something out there for everyone to enjoy.

So, in the interests of sharing some love and support for the community of which we are part, we would like you to do something a little different:
Pick five blogs that you follow at random and tell us what it is about them that you particularly enjoy. How did you find out about them?

Feel free to tag the bloggers that you chose above and let them know.

Pick five posts/pages from your own blog that you are particularly proud of and include the links in your post.
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Friday, 3 May 2019

F4TFriday #97 - Puting Others First

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Humans tend to be programmed to focus on their own needs. This isn't necessarily a selfish thing, we need to look after ourselves simply to survive, and we have done a number of prompts in the past about self-care and looking after ourselves.

It is, however, part of our make-up to look after and attend to the needs of those that we care for and who care for us, whether this be in some form of D/s dynamic, or simply as a result of sharing our lives with other people, be they friends, family or partners.

This week's questions are, as always, open to interpretation and may (or may not) be sex related, but what we want to know is:
When a friend/family member/partner is in need, how do you look after them?

Are you better at providing emotional or physical support?

How have others helped you?

Does helping others help you?
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Friday, 26 April 2019

F4TFriday #96 - Who Would You Do?

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Many of us have our "Fantasy Fuck List" - those people, be they celebrities, colleagues, friends, or possibly just the barista who serves you your coffee in the morning, that for one reason or another, we fantasise about doing naughty things with or to.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
Do you have such a list? Who is on it?

Have you ever had sex with someone famous, be it a local celebrity or a major star? How did it come to happen?

Have you ever had sex with someone because the resembled or reminded you of somebody famous?

At the other end of the scale, is there anyone in your sexual past who's name you didn't know, or that you now can't remember?
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Friday, 19 April 2019

F4TFriday #95 - Getting Things Going

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The type of sex we have often depends on the mood we are in and the circumstances we find ourselves in. Sometime we like to take our time, draw things out, wallow in extended foreplay and have things take as long as possible. At the other extreme, sometime the mood grabs us and all we we have time for is the heady rush of a quickie in the most inappropriate of locations.

Whether it's the former or latter of the above scenarios, or something that lies somewhere in between, things have to start somewhere. So, this week, what we want to know is:
When you are in the mood, do you initiate sex, or do you wait for your partner to do so?

What are your preferred means of letting your partner know that you are in the mood?

What methods of foreplay do you most enjoy?

What methods of foreplay would you like more of or more often?

What was the most daring/risky quickie that you have ever had, and how did it come about?
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Friday, 12 April 2019

F4TFriday #94 - Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind?

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As we move through the world, we present a certain image of ourselves. There are the bits of our personalities, our relationships, our lives that we are happy to share openly, other parts that we share only with our most intimate acquaintances, and some bits that we keep almost entirely to ourselves.

As sex-bloggers, we are, perhaps, more open about the things we share and reveal about ourselves, but even we have things that we keep, if not entirely to ourselves, hidden from the full glare of public scrutiny.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
What are the things you hide from others because you worry that they wouldn't understand?

Do you "categorise" what you share about yourself differently with different people?

Is there anything that you keep hidden away because you are ashamed of it?

Do you have a secret that you will never share?
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Friday, 5 April 2019

F4TFriday #93 - The Good, The Bad And The Indifferent

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We all like to think that we're good at doing the things we do. Sex is no different; no one wants to think that they are bad at it. If we are being honest with ourselves, however, we will almost certainly admit that we are better at some things than we are at others.

Often, the things we are "best" at, are those things we enjoy doing most, and we are less good as those activities that we are less keen on.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
What would you consider are your particular sexual strengths?

Is there anything that you feel you could, or want to do better?

Have you ever been told you are particularly good at something?

Are there any activities that you are completely indifferent about, but do them anyway?
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Friday, 29 March 2019

F4TFriday #92 - Where Do You Go To?

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As Peter Sarstedt famously sang:
"Where do you go to my lovely, when you're alone in your bed?

Tell me the thoughts that surround you,I want to look inside your head"
Alone time, or making time for yourself is an important, if often overlooked part of looking after ourselves. Sometimes we need space for ourselves, simply to be ourselves.

So, this week, what we want to know is:
How often do you make time for yourself?

What do you do to gain the most benefit from your "you time"?

How do you balance the time you devote to yourself and to others? Which do you prioritise? Why?
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Friday, 22 March 2019

F4TFriday #91 - At A Loss

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Usually, loss is seen as a negative. This is understandable as it generally means that we no longer have something of value, be it a possession, a relationship or sometimes even just a particular thought or emotion.

Sometimes, however, loss, or getting lost, can be a good thing. We stumble upon somewhere/something/someone new, it results in us making discoveries, it alters our view on things, and can take our lives in new and (possibly) exciting directions.

Whether the outcome is good, or bad, loss inevitable means change, so, this week, what we want to know is:
What was your most significant loss?

How did you deal with it?

How has that (or any other) loss affected your life?
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