Friday, 19 October 2018

F4TFriday #70 - Brick Walls and Inspirations


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A few weeks back, we asked you about how you got started in the blogging community. While starting a blog is a big step, keeping it going can, at times, seem a daunting task.

In the early days of your blogging career, you may be bursting with ideas that you want to explore and set down as you find your voice and style. Later, as you become more established, things may level off and you are comfortably able to keep your blog ticking over.

Sometimes, however, things get trickier; the ideas run out, the imagination fails, you hit a creative brick wall. It happens, as they say, to the best of us.

With that in mind, what we want to know this week is:

Where do the ideas for your content come from?

How do you get inspiration? Who or what inspires what you post?

How do you decide  what to share, and why?

Once again, I am indebted to the wonderful Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.
 
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Friday, 12 October 2018

F4TFriday #69 - Sixty Nine

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So, here we are, the 69th #F4TFriday. Whoever would have thought it possible that we'd get this far? I certainly didn't.

To mark this particular event, there really only can be one topic for discussion this week.

So, what we want to know is:

What are your views on this particular activity? Yeah? Neah? Meh?

Is it, or has it ever been part of your regular "repertoire"?

Do you have a particular experience, good, bad or somewhat humourous that you could share with us?
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PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 5 October 2018

F4TFriday #68 - Special Occasions

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Today is my birthday. To mark the fact that I have been on the planet for 48 years, I'm heading off to spend a well earned week lying on a beach and, the chances are, all I will be wearing for much of the next seven days is sunscreen (and possibly a smile).

Birthdays are, of course, potentially only one reason to celebrate. Others can include weddings, the festive/holiday season, a promotion at work, a relationship anniversary, or possibly just the fact it's the weekend.

This week, what we want to know is:

Do you have any "rituals" with which you celebrate/mark special occasions?

What was the last treat (surprise or otherwise) that you gave a partner or that a partner gave to you?

What lengths have you gone to to make a particular occasion "special"?
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 28 September 2018

F4TFriday #67 - In Your Own Space

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Modern life can be hectic at times. Friends, family, work, other commitments all make demands on our time and pull us in different directions.  Sometimes it is difficult to find time to focus on ourselves and our own needs because we are spending so much time attending to the needs and wants of others.

With that in mind, what we want to know this week is:

What activities do you indulge in to take care of you?

How regularly do you make time for yourself?

Is your sex life part of your self-care regime and, if so, what part does it play and how?
BIG "Thank you!" this week to Marie Rebelle, author of Rebel's Notes and host of #WickedWednesday (aka @RebelsNotes) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 21 September 2018

F4TFriday #66 - Starting Out


If you participate in this meme, the chances are that you have a blog. Within this community, some of us post photos, some of us write fiction/poetry, some of us share our thoughts and feelings on a range of topics. Quite frequently, many of us do a combination of all of these. In doing so, we become part of and contribute to a rich and diverse community who discuss topics that others may shun, frankly and freely; supporting our fellow bloggers without judging; accepting that another person's drives and desires may be entirely different from our own.

Taking the plunge and starting a blog can, however, be a scary thing; not least because the topics we discuss are frequently those that others consider "taboo". Bearing our soul is seldom easy, and by nature of the topics we write about, the things about ourselves that we share are some of the most intimate aspects of our lives and run deep to the heart of who we are.

It will soon be that time of year when Molly and Kinkly start asking for nominations for their Top 100 blogs, and many other bloggers start producing their own lists of their favourites. This week, however, as a means of celebrating this wonderful community of ours, we want you to think about your own work, and so we are asking:

How did you first become aware of the blogging community?

What made you decide to take the plunge and join in?

How did you decide on the type of content you would share?

Have you achieved the goals you wanted when you started blogging and have these changed over time?

What have been the most positive aspects of being a blogger?

Have there been any negative aspects of being a blogger?
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 14 September 2018

F4TFriday #65 - If I Ruled The World...

 
Rules, they are everywhere. There isn't an aspect of our lives that isn't governed by them. Every way we turn, everywhere we go, there is someone telling us what we can and cannot do and how we are expected to behave, and what the consequences of failing to keep to those rules may be.

So, this week we are asking:

What is your attitude to rules? Do you follow them completely? Do you bend them? Are they there to be broken?

Do you have any self-imposed rules that you live your life by? Do you ever break these?

Within your relationship, are there rules you abide by? Who sets these? Have you ever broken them and, if so, was it deliberate? What are the consequences of rule breaking in this context?
 
BIG "Thank you!" this week to Julie, author of Masters Pleasing Bitch (aka @MPBjulie) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 7 September 2018

F4TFriday #64 - Vocalisation


Sex, in porn, is a very noisy activity. For some reason known only to the makers of adult entertainment, it seems that women in particular are incapable of engaging in sex without sounding like they are on the verge of a chronic asthma attack. Men, on the other hand, seem to have mastered the art of heavy breathing and occasional Neanderthalesque grunts, whilst sounding like their are trying not to sneeze at the point of climax. Yes, when it comes to depicting how people communicate their pleasure, porn is, once again, guilty of a certain, shall we say, "artistic" exaggeration.

So, what we want to know this week is:

How do you communicate pleasure? Are you a moaner, a groaner, a screamer or a sigher?

If you are with a partner, how do they like you to express pleasure? How do you like them to express theirs?

Aside from vocalisations expressing pleasure, what other sounds during sex add to the overall experience?
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 31 August 2018

F4TFriday #63 - Do It Yourself



Having sex, according to Woody Allen, is like bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand. Actually, even if you do have a good partner, sometimes nothing quite beats a little bit of "alone time". After all, can anyone really know how we like to be touched and aroused better than we do ourselves?

So, this week we are taking things into our own hands and asking:

How often to you indulge yourself? How do you do it? Fingers? Toys? A combination?

Do you have any particular tricks or techniques that work best for you?

Why do you do it? Are there any particular scenarios or circumstances that mean you are more likely to indulge yourself?

Is it a solitary experience or, if you have a partner, do you let them watch? If so, what do you like about being observed?
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 24 August 2018

F4TFriday #62 - Education, Education, Education...

It's probably fair to say that the quality of sex education varies considerably. If I were being cynical, based on my own experience far too many years ago, I would say it ranges from poor all the way down to utterly inadequate. In my day it was pretty much limited to "Man puts penis inside woman's vagina. Man's sperm fertilises woman's egg. That's where babies come from."

Now, depending on where you live, and your age, your experience may be broadly similar to, or completely different from mine. So, this week, what we want to know is:

What elements do you believe a comprehensive sex education programme should cover and why?

How should the responsibility for teaching kids about sex be split between parents and schools?

What age do you believe we should start teaching children about sex?

If there was one thing that could have improved your own experience of sex education, what would it have been?
 
BIG "Thank you!" this week to missy, author of my life as a submissive wife (aka @5ubmissy) for providing the inspiration for this week's question.

PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.

Friday, 17 August 2018

F4TFriday #61 - Changed Perceptions


As with so many aspects of our lives, the things we like or dislike sexually are very much a matter of personal taste. It is also true that our experiences can change our perceptions and it can be pleasantly surprising to discover that you actually enjoy something that you had either never thought of trying or, were almost certain you wouldn't enjoy it if you did.

Of course, the reverse can also be true, and sometimes we can go off things that we used to enjoy.

So, this week, what we want to know is:

Are there any activities that you have totally changed your mind about, either positively or negatively?

What were the circumstances that led you to change your mind?
 
PS: If there's a question you'd like us to ask, feel free to contact us via the suggestion box or on twitter.